Ok guys, please don’t shoot me for coming up with yet another thread with similar issue
I just need help/suggestions that, how to be strong & stop the urge/temptation to contact/reach/check-out someone with whom you’ve ended things with/done the breakup. It’s not that, there’s any desire to get back to him & i do seriously want to move on & get over him but it’s just that, all of sudden, i get this strong urge to dial the number & see how is he doing,etc I know it looks quite immaturity on my part but I feel as if it’s something iam not able to have control on. Please suggest some ways..
You need to delete his number off your phone. Delete him from FB and all other social networks. Block his e-mails and block him on all chats.
As for how to be strong....that's upto you. You control many other urges don't you?
Aren't there times when you get so angry at someone that you want tp slap/punch them? How do you stop yourself from doing it? Or do you end up hitting them?
Aren't there times you go to the mall and fall in love with an item...but you know that you can't afford it. What do you do? Steal the item? Go in debt buying it? Or do you control the urge b/c you know you can't afford it?
As you've been told several times already....keep yourself busy in real life (not on GS)!!!! Just the fact that you have the time to open all these threads on GS about this shows that you're not keeping yourself busy!
You need to delete his number off your phone. Delete him from FB and all other social networks. Block his e-mails and block him on all chats.
As for how to be strong....that's upto you. You control many other urges don't you?
Aren't there times when you get so angry at someone that you want tp slap/punch them? How do you stop yourself from doing it? Or do you end up hitting them?
Aren't there times you go to the mall and fall in love with an item...but you know that you can't afford it. What do you do? Steal the item? Go in debt buying it? Or do you control the urge b/c you know you can't afford it?
As you've been told several times already....keep yourself busy in real life (not on GS)!!!! Just the fact that you have the time to open all these threads on GS about this shows that you're not keeping yourself busy!
this. you know yourself better than all the rest of us on here know you. So do what you have to do. I have an addictive personality and I tend to dwell on things so I had to block the last person I was talking to and delete them from fb, gchat, delete their old emails, delete their family, etc. do what you need to do to get over it and move on. There's no point in saving his number unless somewhere deep down you want him to call. You need to move on and if you can't do it willingly, then force yourself to. If you don't have access to his contact info then you can't contact him.
Most importantly, keep yourself busy. Find a hobby, go out with friends, read books, watch tv, do something OTHER than come on GS or think about him.
Keep telling yourself, "Every time I call him, I am feeding (more & more) his EGO, at the cost of my self respect, which I am losing with every call that I make (indirectly confessing that it was all my fault). The after effects of my present immature behavior would be too severe for my heart to bear/handle in future. Controlling myself today to heal this wound would lead to a joyful tomorrow, otherwise I would end up weeping more & more. No pain, no gain!"
A wound starts itching during the healing process. Even though it is very tempting to rub it at that stage, as it gives you a temporary pleasure/relief, but with every attempt, rubbing it increases the intensity of the itch, (also the desire to rub it becomes higher with more rubbing) that too at the cost of damaging the skin/wound even more. Hence, due to such a behavior, you would have to wait for the healing process to start all over again.
Every time you resist the temptation of itching, it is a minor success for you, that would not only reduce the intensity of the itch with time, but also heal your would in a very short time.
you just do it. you get tempted, and you tell yourself, no, why? what am i gonna get out of this, and it's just gonna make him gloat and feel all puffy and proud, and leave me more hurt.
shrugs
You don't deserve that - you deserve to move on and develop an inner peace.
You don't deserve that - you deserve to move on and develop an inner peace.
not to mention that he does not deserve that either. He also needs some inner peace. He definitely wants to get rid of Pinkys voice in the background, singing the Police's song - every move you make, ever breath you take, i'll be watching you.
