Ok so, i did mention in my last thread that, the guy had told me that, if iam not able to give him a date to visit our home with parents by 28th June, he would have to take a big decision of leaving me :(. I did try to get him a date by involving my cousin sister,etc & talking to dad directly, but he isn’t willing to meet anyone :(. So tomorrow is that big day where i know the guy would just come up & tell me to go our separate ways. I am just dying thinking of all this :(. But since there’s no other way, i don’t want to look clingy nor i would want to stop him. But i don’t want to feel so terrible. I just want to feel okay & normal, but how? :(. Please help with some good advises & suggestions.
I think you're foolish to not do everything in your power to arrange a meeting with your family. If your dad won't do anything, then involve a chacha, mamu, taaya, nana, dada. Anyone who can act on your behalf and meet and talk this guy on behalf of your family.
And worse case - have him meet your mom and you outside of your home. Go to a restaurant and give him the opportunity to talk to her.
If no one in your family is willing to meet him, then tell him that is the case and ask if he is still willing to marry you without your family's support - that will tell you how committed he is to this relationship.
Time is a great healer ,,but it depends if we really want to heal our self or want to hurt more by thinking why this happened...
Breakup is not end of life there are so many worth living things out there you just have to lOok for them.don't wait for someone to come and take you out from this breakup-pain self help is best help!!
It is frustrating to know you have made no attempt tell your potential rishtha about the situation at home. Several had suggested you do so.
How is your rishtha supposed to know what is going on unless you clue him in. It is still not late. You have only yourself to blame if you don't inform him. If he is decent he will be supportive. If he is not supportive he is not the guy who will look out for you.
I am so sorry you don't understand this simple concept.
It is frustrating to know you have made no attempt tell your potential rishtha about the situation at home. Several had suggested you do so.
How is your rishtha supposed to know what is going on unless you clue him in. It is still not late. You have only yourself to blame if you don't inform him. If he is decent he will be supportive. If he is not supportive he is not the guy who will look out for you.
I am so sorry you don't understand this simple concept.
He is not being understanding enough. All he tells me is that, get him a date to visit home by today or else he is gone. He says he doesn't just want me to talk to dad, but talk and get a date, because he can't even wait if dad wants to take time & think before giving a date.
Dont you have any sister brother, in stories like these we do find someone helpful, come on think about it before its too late, your ready to loose him so easily
Dont you have any sister brother, in stories like these we do find someone helpful, come on think about it before its too late, your ready to loose him so easily
Yes, all iam telling him is that, give me like 10 days more or so, & i would try to do something. But he isn't willing...:(
Yes, all iam telling him is that, give me like 10 days more or so, & i would try to do something. But he isn't willing...:(
Think about this from hiscperspective. He hasxbeen asking for a date to visit your family for a few months now. You have not given him any details about the resistance from your father. At the very least you got to tell him the reason for the delay.
You need to learn how to communicate effectively. That is part of growing up.
Pick up that phone and explain the situation to him. Don't worry that deadline has passed. Just do it.
deleted him. You mellow down like this n he is gonna run over u. This is what he is already doing apparently by giving you deadlines. N trust me if you let this anticipated overwhelm you, you would need a long time to come out. Stand strong NOW!
