no where near in getting married but been reading a lot of girls at gs getting married soon ..Thought I share
Use your ‘Fitnah’ to win the heart of your husband
All women have the ornaments that Allah blessed them with. Use the beauty Allah - Azza wa Jal - has bestowed you with to win the heart of your husband.
When your husband comes home, greet him with a wonderful greeting
Imagine your husband coming home to a clean house, an exquisitely dressed wife, a dinner prepared with care, children clean and sweet smelling, a clean bedroom – what would this do to his love for you? Now imagine what the opposite does to him.
Review the characteristics of the Hoor Al-Ayn and try to imitate them
The Qur’an and Sunnah describe the women in Jannah with certain characteristics. Such as the silk they wear, their large dark eyes, their singing to their husband, etc. Try it, wear silk for your husband, put Kohl in your eyes to ‘enlarge’ them, and sing to your husband.
Always wear jewelry and dress up in the house.
From the early years, little girls have adorned themselves with earrings and bracelets and worn pretty dresses – as described in the Qur’an. As a wife, continue to use the jewelry that you have and the pretty dresses for your husband.
Joke and play games with your husband.
A mans secret: they seek women who are lighthearted and have a sense of humor. As Rasul Allah – sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam – told Jabir to marry someone who would make him laugh and he would make her laugh.
Thank your husband constantly for the nice things he does. Then thank him again.
This is one of the most important techniques, as the opposite is a characteristic of the women of hellfire.
An argument is a fire in the house. Extinguish it with a simple ‘I’m sorry’ even if it is not your fault.
When you fight back, you are only adding wood to the fire. Watch how sweetly an argument will end when you just say sincerely, “Look, I’m sorry. Let’s be friends.”
Always seek to please your husband, for he is your key to Jannah.
Rasul Allah – sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam – taught us that any women who dies in a state where her husband is pleased with her, shall enter Jannah. So .. please him.
Listen and Obey!
Obeying your husband is Fard! Your husband is the Ameer of the household. Give him that right and respect.
Make Dua to Allah to make your marriage and relationship successful.
All good things are from Allah. Never forget to ask Allah ta’ala for the blessing of having a successful marriage that begins in this Dunya and continues on - by the Mercy of Allah ta’ala - into Jannah.
I am just wondering about number 8. What if a wife has terrible voice..should she still sing or would that now overlap into #4 because it could actually piss the husband off.
HAHAHAHA, this is laughable. Specially #3, since when did your husband become your key to heaven? I thought the key to heaven was worshipping the one God, salat, zakat, and a righteous life.
I should go tell my wife to please me, as I am the key to heaven for her.
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*Originally posted by mahnoor@lahore: *
no where near in getting married but been reading a lot of girls at gs getting married soon ..Thought I share
Review the characteristics of the Hoor Al-Ayn and try to imitate them
The Qur’an and Sunnah describe the women in Jannah with certain characteristics. Such as the silk they wear, their large dark eyes, their singing to their husband, etc. Try it, wear silk for your husband, put Kohl in your eyes to ‘enlarge’ them, and sing to your husband.
Always seek to please your husband, for he is your key to Jannah.
Rasul Allah – sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam – taught us that any women who dies in a state where her husband is pleased with her, shall enter Jannah. So .. please him.
Listen and Obey!
Obeying your husband is Fard! Your husband is the Ameer of the household. Give him that right and respect.
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Rab jane, I have tried mentioning ^ to the Mrs. only to get a pillow thrown at my face. Also, I thought your mother was the key to jannah, or is that some motherly propoganda?
I am sorry mahnoor as gr8 as it all sounds, I have to say that nowadays you wont even find a naukar with these qualities. Where is the list of being a good husband. Oh, I would luv to see that one
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*Originally posted by Chandbeti: *I will be damned if I nod a yes to everything my hubby says. Won't go down without a good fight u see. :-p
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he won't be. I am sure. And if he is, I am not a foo to oppose him even when he is right. I just don't wanna be pushed around. I wasn't born to be a servant to some guy. He won't dictate the terms..
