How to avoid spending time with the in-laws

[aliyahali]

Re: How to avoid spending time with the in-laws

@nnabid

^^^ that’s just the point. I know the kinds of things she likes talking about; I know how to talk to her; how to spend time with her and keep the conversation going. The problem is that it annoys me, because in order to engage with her, I have to not be myself. I have to put on a show, a Pakistani version of me, which I can only do for short periods of time before it irritates me and I just want to be myself again.

And before you say, why don’t you be yourself around her - I’ve tried that. She doesn’t get it. She doesn’t get the way I talk, she doesn’t understand English (which I am 1 million per cent more comfortable speaking in) she doesn’t get the kinds of topics I talk about. She only knows how to be Pakistani, so I have to be Pakistani around her.

Does that make sense? Can anyone else relate to this? Can anyone help me pleaseeeeeeeeeeeee???

They’re probably thinking something similar… how to avoid spending time with you