Hi all,
I’m in a difficult situation. My son’s name is short and sweet, I don’t think we could make it easier to pronounce for others as it’s SO SIMPLE. YET a friend who has a habit of giving nickname to everybody has started calling him by her own choice of name! She is a good friend and very sweet and I know she’s not doing it to make us angry. I just want her to stop calling him by that nickname because others have started doing it too. How to tell her to stop without sounding rude? I don’t want her to feel bad but I don’t want my baby to have a nickname before he learns to say his real name!
Hi all,
I'm in a difficult situation. My son's name is short and sweet, I don't think we could make it easier to pronounce for others as it's SO SIMPLE. YET a friend who has a habit of giving nickname to everybody has started calling him by her own choice of name! She is a good friend and very sweet and I know she's not doing it to make us angry. I just want her to stop calling him by that nickname because others have started doing it too. How to tell her to stop without sounding rude? I don't want her to feel bad but I don't want my baby to have a nickname before he learns to say his real name!
HELP! :(
Its not about name being difficult to pronounce, its the fact that your son must be cutie sweetie like both of you ..
aray kiya hai, kerney dain. Its only one person doing it and doing it out of love. Aisay bahchca thoree seekh le gaa from one person only.
Its not about name being difficult to pronounce, its the fact that your son must be cutie sweetie like both of you ..
aray kiya hai, kerney dain. Its only one person doing it and doing it out of love. Aisay bahchca thoree seekh le gaa from one person only.
no, it's not just her now...others have picked up the nick too. That's why I want her to stop now before everybody starts calling him that nickname!! :(
You mentioned that she's a good friend. In this case I would say honesty is the best policy. Just let her know that you would prefer your son be called by his proper name.
I don't want my baby to have a nickname before he learns to say his real name!
HELP! :(
If you say that she's a close and good friend, then you should talk to her about it. Tell her that while your understand that the nickname she has given your son is out of love and affection........you would prefer that people (don't say SHE....use the broad word, "people") call him by his his real name.
I've seen little kids try to pronounce their real names and they end up butchering it, lol. It's funny and cute. My niece Khadija used to go around telling people her name was Jeeja, for example. But Kids do learn their real names. They don't become confused for life and go around telling people, "My name is Pinky/Bubbly/Munna/Golu-Molu." :p Like many things......the parents have to use repetition to teach their kids.
Also, while your friend might back off from calling your son by a nick name........that doesn't mean you'll always be able to stop it from happening. Talk to your friend about it....if she doesn't back off.....I don't think it's something to end the friendship over and it's not such a huge deal.
Maybe when you're in a gathering...and the other women call him by the nick...tell them "Oh I want him to learn how to say his real name....and I'd appreciate it if you all (apart from my husband and I) would also help us out by referring to him as his name."
keep repeating his name in front of her/everyone, whenever you calling him, playing with him, talking about him. If she asks or says something about him using the nick, repeat the sentence/question with using his name.
I am so with you on this. I hate when people give nicknames. I think our parents gave us beautiful names and then someone screws them up.. arggh. My khala is stuck with Munni. My dad is stuck with Munnu. My mom is stuck with choti.
My khalo would not give phone to my khala if we say Munni khala. He hates Munni.. lol
So anyway in your situation you can just randomly say to your friend how much you hate when people give nicknames to others. We all have beautiful Islamic name and it annoys you to see it butchered. Maybe she'll get the hint.
keep repeating his name in front of her/everyone, whenever you calling him, playing with him, talking about him. If she asks or says something about him using the nick, repeat the sentence/question with using his name.
I think this is the best advice so far. I have been trying to do this but it didn't work with her, lol. She's a little stubborn but not a bad person at all. She just does it out of habit!
Well, I sent her a text as I didn't want confrontation...thankfully she responded back nicely and said she will call him by his name from now on and that she's sorry for causing issues.
I really don't like it when people give nicknames. My own name is messed up because some random friend in high school WHO I'M NOT EVEN IN TOUCH WITH ANYMORE gave me a nickname and now 95% of people call me with that nick instead of my real name!
I hate nicknames too, they add to confusion. We do have cute nicknames for our kids, its something that not even my parents know, its only between us that we use at home sometimes. outside its their real name. my ammi sometimes calls my saniya .. sani but i want her to stop it, so will have to talk to her.
I hate it too when people call u or ur children with nicknames... Since she's ur close friend you should talk to her and let her know that you don't like her calling ur son with a nickname.
no, it's not just her now...others have picked up the nick too. That's why I want her to stop now before everybody starts calling him that nickname!! :(
I think I saw a certain nickname in FB... even though its cute, it must be annoying for you. So good to hear that you have cleared out things between you guys.
My mom commented about this a few days ago to someone.
Use your parents as an excuse. Say something like "my parents are totally against nicknames and got so mad when they heard such and such calling him that! Can you please please just not call him by any nicknames?"
