Re: How to advice sil?
Is this the same SIL who's been causing trouble for you (I seem to recall earlier threads about her)?
Though it sounds selfish, the others are right; you should probably avoid advising her. You can offer comfort, but you need to let your husband know that though you agree with him, you're afraid that your intentions will be misinterpreted.
Re: How to advice sil?
yeah its the same SIL…
He has kept asking me today whether she called or not…she hasnt called and he asked me to contact her to know whether all is ok..so I sent her a text message whether things are ok and she just wrote back that she is gonna call later…
I am just so confused on how I can aviod giving her advice if she asks me directly on what she should do..what can i say to aviod advicing and still be comforting?
Re: How to advice sil?
It seems to me if u say u can't help her, she'll b*tch about you and cause problems.. if you DO help her, she'll still whine about you and cause problems.. its ur choice wat u wanna do..
Re: How to advice sil?
Exactly!!
I want to comfort her and aviod advicing. can repeat what I know he has adviced her.
just wanna avoid troubles and if she asks me what to do I just dont know what to say
Re: How to advice sil?
Sara 516's last post is the perfect way to respond if it is inevitable to intervene. Diplomatically lay the situation in front of her and let her choose. Try not to press her in any direction since later on it would be you, how would be to blame.
Pray for her and tell her you shall pray for that is what you can. Considering that your mil is against it and your sil is having second thought then you should defiantly not push her in the direction of the divorce.
Plus think of it if she is divorced who is going to support her? Your hubby .. she might even end up staying with you. Nagging you all the time. …Imagine what night mare it would be…Oops I am being chalak…
Re: How to advice sil?
Tell her to do an Istikhara 
and pray hajat namaz and ask for God’s guidance. When God is there to help, Chameli, who better to turn to?
I also think that you should not take your conundrum to your husband. Tell him that it is her decision to make not mine so even with good intentions, I donot want to hinder her life decisions in any way.
And yes, pray for her, she seems like a complete tool, but still :halo: