Soo…in conclusion, be a mat and let the guy walk all over you even before you give him a chance to know you.
How about, you be yourself? Tell the guy about your thoughts, your views. If he wants a pushover then he can find plenty. If you’re not ok with being a pushover, then don’t be. You’re trying to figure out him as much as he’s trying to figure you out. If he doesn’t seem ok to you, then adios.