How should the rejection..

Lifestyle Relationships
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..be disclosed?

You (or your family in case of arranged marriage) do not like the person.

How should it be responded?

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In the newspaper.

So, that it's the first thing they read in the morning.

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Sue them. For defamation of character in print. :chai:

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Just call them and let them know that it won't work out. It's a sticky spot to be in but must be done. If they ask for a reason, then tell them that the father or mother does not think it will work out.

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Some people use soft words for rejection like istakhara theek nahi aya etc. Some people use harsh words for rejection like larki sawali hai , larki moti hai , larka ganja hai , larka kamata acha nahi hai , khaandan nahi pasand aya etc.

I knew someone who rejected a girl just because the girl's mother was wearing kanch ki bangles instead of gold bangles. So the reason can be as stupid as this.

Similarly, someone asked my parents to find a bride for their son my parents knew a friend's daughter who was in marriageable age so they introduced them the meeting took place in our home I was there myself. Both boy and girl sat together , the girl was very talented and she is quite well known for her talent here but us larki sey ek ghalti ho gayee she asked the guy if he knows how to cook. She even told him that she travelled to some country alone where her sibling was residing . The guy immediately rejected her and gave the reason "yeh kesi larki hai mujh sey poochti hai kay khana pakana atta hai ya nahi aur kitni tez hai foreign country akeley chali gayee !!!" My parents were in a very awkward position later on because they had to communicate the NO. Luckily , the girl's family did not even bothered to ask :)

It's a very difficult position to be in. Because sometimes someone ends up getting hurt !

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What's the harm in knowing how to cook? My mother insisted that I learn basic cooking when I turned 16. Now at least I can eat if no one else is around. Unlike the desi men who just sit there grumbling about how hungry they are lol

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So painful for some people… :frowning:

Don’t feed the lawyers. :hehe:

OK. This ‘may’ work in some situations.

Thanks for sharing. Very enlightening.
If the guy is so stupid or trying to be smart on rejecting her for the reasons described, then she is better off without being with him.

Slow down my dear.

Desi men CAN and DO cook. :slight_smile:

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^ totally agree with you ! But somehow the dude had a problem with the question.

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desi men in pak hardly learn to cook unless its their profession.

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Haha Chef Zakir! :p

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in arrange marriages, many times there always is a "3rd person" involved. That 3rd person is the best bet to convey the rejection.

I though got rejection call from Girl's mom directly but again, you cant blame her, look at my avatar :D

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^ lol That is a decent avatar bhai sahab. I am sure her mom got jealous.

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If you say the Istakhara thing, no one can really argue against that. However, I don't know from an Islamic perspective if that is allowed.

Cause you are kind of lying about a religious procedure.

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hahahahahaha