How should men be handled in situations like these?

Gora_Kala · August 1, 2011, 5:35pm

Re: How should men be handled in situations like these?

Inspired from Spiral’s thread “Where am i wrong”

How should one actually deal with accusations or indifference of attitude?

I have heard many many cases in fact where husbands give a damn about how big a thing child birth is. One of my friend’s husband even said “Tum pehli larki toh nahi ho jo bacha paida kar rahi hai”.

Same way, men who don’t care the least what you do for them .. how you maintain the home, how you handle relations, how you cook food for him etc… basically those for who only earning money is a big deal work.

Likewise, if your family’s behaviour, attitude, style or even what they do for you or your family means nothing at all to your husband .. instead there is always a plethora of issues with them.

Above all, talking is no way out .. and if you totally lose your cool and you react, you are called badtameez or confrontational … how should one actually handle such situations?

Wives - how can you let the matter end peacefully?
Men - How should a wife put things that they can actually get into your heads and you can act upon rightly on it?

I will give you a few tips because of unavailability of a straight answer.

generally speaking, nothing specific to any gender…

The only person you can change in this world is yourself
Always respect your spouse’s anger
Learn to live if change is impossible
Concentrate on the responsibilities rather than the rights
You can easily get with a smile what you can easily lose in a debate
Each gender has been blessed with an armory to win, learn to use your gifts.
Marriage is all about compromise, don’t think that you are the only one doing that.
More than often praise what you like about your spouse
Always try to justify (Intrapersonal dialogue) your spouse’s behavior like you would justify your own
Always look at the positive aspects of the personality, we are all a mixture of a devil and an angel.