i have never ever given a jawab 2 her, i have never complained about her even, out of respect ofcourse. She has said so heart trembling and hurtful stuff but i never said anything back. Why? My kids are more important than arguing with a person who belittles me, even in front of others. The thing is that she doesnt argue she directly compares me to other peoples bahoos and her other bahoo whom she loves the most in this world, she calls me batimeez and u know what she takes revenge in every form i.e hiding things, telling neighbours and all that i dont do anything, cant do and that i use her to clean up my room basically that she is my servant.
My daughter is ill and i cannot waste my time in arguing! :)
Awww boredom, you are such a good DIL and mother. Always take the highroad, don't stoop down to her level, and don't think people don't know who's righ and who's wrong. Neighbor's/community people know what's going on better then anyone else. People recognize jaahils like they recognize night and day.
You'll be rewarded Inshaallah, and take comfort in the fact pretty soon your MIL will be old and feeble, and then won't be saying stuff to you. So just be patient. It's the Islamic thing to do. It's just a matter of time.