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I also agree with raania. I went to school (pre school) at an early age in Pakistan for 2-3 hours and all we did was play around and learn the alphabets, nursery rhymes.
The school that my 4 yr is going to has a 2 hour program starting for 2 1/2 years so I don't think he's too young.
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Hey Proto,
I agree it is important for children to learn how to socialise at an early age, and in the right enviornement this can have a very positive affect on a child on several levels. However...i think you have answered your own questions on whether this nursery (we call it nursery) is appropriate for your son. You have very little confidence in the teacher, and i firmly beleive that nurseries that have a 'closed' door policy has something to hide.
As someone else has rightly pointed out, your child is already developing negative ideas on what school etc is all about - and he will not thrive under those conditions. My advice is that there are lots of nurseries to choose from..but stick to your guns onn key points e.g open door...teacher trained etc and IA you will find a nursery that is right for you and your son...NEVER settle for second best...you are PAYING them ..they are not doing it for free!!!
hope all goes well...
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Hey proto,
I think u and ur sister should both take ur children out of the playgroup (and let other parents know about it too) and either find a better play group where u can actually see whats going on in the room or keep them at home. If they r not letting u in the room then they are definitely hiding something.
U don't want ur child's early years to be effected by this nasty teacher who has yelled at him and has frightened him by telling him she's gonna lock him in a cupboard if he doesn't stop crying. And If ur not careful these unqualified ladies can effect him emotionally and effect his learning in the long run
Play group is meant to be a fun experience for children to go and play and have fun and give them a chance to socialize with other children. but ur baba's not having fun :(
how about trying a montessori nursery?
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my nephew has been crying about school too.....and one of the kids in his class actually punched him in the face which made matters worse....the teacher was watching so did tell the kid off....my sis-in-law went and told that other kids mom about what her son did and she said "oh hes not feeling well he has a flu thats why"....what a stupid excuse.....ive noticed alot of the pakistani kids here in UK dont have much manners at all.....they hit other kids alot for no reason....is it lack of attention from parents or is it that their parents never tell them off?
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I did talk to the coordinator and she has told me to get back to her in a week's time while she looks into the matter and the teacher herself. Raiyan has been relatively calm since then Alhamdulillah. I hope things will be better next week IA.
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I really feel for your son, as my only nephew is of his age n i am just imagining him going to school n happening this all to him, you are masha ALLAH a very strong mom, if i would be in your place i would have burst in to tears n would have taken out my daughter or even my nephew out of this school, may ALLAH help you n guide the teachers to behave well with such small innocent kids.
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This happened to my younger brother couple of years ago in pakistan. he went from UK, we enrolled him in nursery and the teacher actually hit him couple of times. He used to cry etc, my mum complained and the principal actually took the teachers side saying the teacher was off during that week, whilst i actually saw her every single day because i was in the same school. It was a private school, pretty expensive. needless to say the teacher turned nasty to my brother .. if i remember correctly my mum made them change his class group and it got better.
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ufff this is exactly I was scared of when I sent my son to school...
When we were in canada, my son used to go to a day care, first we sent him to a pakistani woman who was higly recommended by someone very close to our family, my son didn't adjust even after 3 weeks, if you child is crying after 3-4 weeks, it is a bad sign IMO. Usually kids get adjusted to a new environment in 2-3 weeks, even if they are not 100% happy they start assosoiating themselves to someone or something, and it is much quicker at age 3 than age 1. We changed his daycare, and he was fine, within a week he was part of the whole new group and it was a big relief (I think the second daycare owner was god sent)
See your nephew goes to the same school, your child should be atleat comfortable by week2-3. Don't force him there if he is not too happy, sahi mein, this can be a mothers nightmare that the child is not happy at the daycare/school.
My son is going to a prechool now, everybody kept raving about it. It took my son about a week to get used to it, but my son was already used to going to a day care(for about 6-7 months) so that may have helped too. I sent him to the pre-school when he was 2 1/2 years, and he adjusted well. His school has no parent going in school area and in class policy too, but if parents want they can go for monitoring (done through a glass pane, so kids can't see you, all kids see is a big mirror on the wall), and that can be done on just drop in basis, the school doesn't have to 'arrange' it. These are good signs, but if the school tells you no you can not watch your child I would be concerned.
I would suggest do some more reserach on good schools, the school my son gos to is not fancy, it is very basic but a GOOD school they have lots of outdoor space to play, healthy snack and food policy (we are not allowed to send cookies, cakes, chips, juices at all), teachers are available to talk for atleast half an hour every single day, parents can drop in to see kids in class room or from behind the bushes and stuff when they are playing outside.
Good luck, I cried for 2 weeks when my son started going to daycare and he was not adjusting well...