how should i behave...

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Re: how should i behave…

I completely agree

Also, if you win over the hearts of your inlaws in this manner, they might out of mere observation watch out for you and if your husband is for instance buying them everything they want and you seem left out, they might say “what do you want?” to you as well and include you.

Secondly, he is with you away from family generally. It is natural that when he is with them for the little time he is, he treats them special. You should not begrudge him that.

@mirage

Some men, after marriage, change and forget everything but their wives. Some others keep the balance. They are good to their family and wife alike. Maybe because they are God fearing and do not want to be unfair to either. Your man doesn’t belong to both the categories so maybe you should not expect him to behave the way you idealize or want.

If you want this marriage to work, you will have to be generous, generous, generous, and giving. I know it might feel awful, it even sounds awful. But this is how people win the trust of those who are not ready to trust others. And once and if you won your husband’ trust, which will happen, sooner or later, In sha Allah, one day, he will have to give you the status you desire and deserve.

Well and I believe this is something that was very much prevalent in the previous generation where it was considered odd for the couple to behave the way today’s couples do normally. Our mothers did spend their lives with sacrifice, generosity, patience and tolerance. And these habits are rewarding, no doubt.