Guppans, please tell me how you would feel if you received a baby shower invitation that stated adults only? (I know I know the irony lol) Is this a rude thing to say though for a baby shower? Would people be offended? I’m indifferent. Ps. I’m not talking about older children, but younger toddlers that usually can be seen running in packs in every direction lol. The same reasons that people wouldn’t invite children to a wedding? I think not having children is accepted at a wedding because of the costs but what about a social event like this?
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If one wants adult food, drinks, conversation then definitely kids should stay out. It’s completely two sets of menus if kids are invited. And generally baby showers happen in people’s homes. Not everyone has child proof homes.
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Oh no I forgot that part, it’s not at home. That’s exactly it, I can’t have it our place cuz of renos so it’ll be in a venue type place. Thanks for the input!
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If you know that everyone you are inviting has means to leave their children home, then by all means go for it. Some of us, living abroad, are not so lucky so if I received such an invitation, I will decline.
What about breast fed babies? Are you going to say, leave your toddlers home but bring your babies if you breast feed?
I guess it all boils down to your social circle and who you are inviting!!
If it’s at a venue, you can honestly hire a baby sitter and have the arts/ crafts table etc away from “grown ups” while they can still keep an eye on their children.
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I wouldn’t feel weird at all. I usually leave the kid at home with hubby for showers anyway. If you drag a kid to an event not planned for them, you can’t then get annoyed when they act like themselves and want to do what they do. Not that as a parent you don’t supervise, of course you do, but that if I know my kid will be bored and only has a certain threshold, it’s not a situation I would put them in to begin with. Showers are adult affairs- leave it at that.
I do see Jia’s point about babies who are nursing but hopefully that would be an obvious thing to those moms. As much as I’m a proponent of hiring babysitters at events, a part of me also feels like at smaller events that’s an expense I shouldn’t be undertaking. It’s different at weddings where there are very many more people, children, and where the budget is larger too.
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I agree with Sgc, I wouldn’t feel offended or upset. If I can’t arrange for a babysitter, I don’t go. A host has the perogative to hold the event the way they want too, IMO. For a baby shower/wedding shower, I wouldn’t expect for them to arrange child care, but that’s just me.
I missed out on so many functions and invites when I had my 3 little ones…it just kind of goes with the territory I guess.
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Like other posters said If I were nursing my baby; I would just decline. No need to be offended 
I went to a dholki few weeks ago and the host told me ‘just bring your girls’ so I didn’t take my boy (who is 13 months)…I didn’t see anything in it.
kids are very attached to their father so it’s never a problem for me to getaway for a few hours…in case someone falls ill suddenly and then he can’t calm down a crying one then I rush home 
Some people are just that particular about their parties…don’t sweat it too much
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Its not rude at all. Baby/bridal showers are actually adult affairs and kids feel incredibly bored at these events. And when my toddler gets bored, she acts up. I think these events are actually a great way for mommies to take a break from kids and enjoy themselves in the company of friends. I would leave the kids with my husband or my mom. And if they are not available, I would just decline the invitation.
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Thanks guys!! That makes me feel a lot better!! Most of our friends kids are 3+ years so I am not concerned about little babies that are being breast fed. I can totally understand that concern. Im glad you brought that to my attention Gemini because in the case that I know someone is, I can talk to them if they would rather bring the baby.
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Not rude at all.
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Agree with Cherrytop, it’s not rude at all. It can be fun to let the moms/adults interact with one another, without worrying about the kids. How often does this happen? If majority of the dawats you’ve attended have accommodated for children, then it’s not such a big deal if a couple events don’t.
Enjoy the baby shower without having to whip your head around every ten minutes to see what your little one is up to, to not have to shoot him/her a stern warning glance, to not have to fill up little one’s plate with food before you fill your own and then to make sure he/she won’t spill anything, to not worry about bathroom breaks, to not have to find ways to quell an impending temper tantrum, to not have to hear requests “Mom, can we stop to get candy, go to the park, get a movie, etc etc)” on your ride to and from the baby shower, to not have to have to play mommy-referee between rowdy kids, and to not have to make sure that lil’ Pinku and Bubbly didn’t hear anything about the birthing procedure from your hushed tones with Aunti So-n-So that would mar their innocence. You get to do ALL of this a good majority of your 365 days, so revel in the rare, hassle-free occasion.
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not rude at all. im not inviting kids to my baby shower, it will be adults only.
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Not rude at all. Now is it adult only, or ladies only??? it would be fine if it was ladies only, so you can leave the kiddos with hubby. But if it is adult only and both parents are invited…then its a little odd.