I tried really hard to instill values of human equality in my kids but then I still find myself typecasting and stereo typing and being prejudiced. I had several bad experiences with desis and ME people and I shied away from them. My boy had recently made a new Indian friend and my initial interaction with his parents was not as warm as I would have liked and then internally I got a bit of a reservation about the kid. This one Indian family had exploited our generosity for years and I was kind of trying to protect us from that happening again.
Last evening my wife forced me to go to a dinner hosted by one of the parents of my kids friend and Roniks parents were there, they were very modern, interesting and also not kunjoos. His mom Brenda is a physician and she is a Christian from Goa and his dad is a Punjabi, he is a radiologist and he is open to eating all kinds of meat.
The party had 4 desi families, the host was an Indian guy and owns a restaurant and is a chef. His wife is Indonesian Chinese. The other couple was a Pakistani Muslim and an Indian wife from Hyderabad and they promised to cook Hyderabadi food for us. The host cooked the most amazing mutton Biryanni.
I had such a good time at the party and we might make this a regular thing especially since the kids are such great friends. Brenda has offered to hold the next get together at her home. She has never eaten Nihari so I might make that for them.
I really feel guilty about holding an internal grudge against Ronik.
Tell me how open minded are you or have you done some stuff that you are not proud of.
I don’t know if this counts, but recently we’ve had a bunch of scammers calling us. Actually, this has been going on for a number of years. The one thing they have in common is that they are all desi (as you can tell from their accents. So whenever some desi sounding person that I don’t know calls, I automatically suspect them of being that type of scammer.
I think it would count, I had so many bad experiences and because of that I stereotyped the nice family without trying to get to know them. In your case also maybe one day the desi caller is not a scammer. I had the same kind of calls. I hear Morrocan town are booming as they make dirty calls to men and get them to cam up and then blackmail them
I thought the same but the parents seem interesting, Goan Christian mom, clean cut Singh father both specialist physicians and socially outgoing. I think I could get to like them. I don`t really enjoy the traditional vanilla people.
My wife forced me to go to a desi wedding with her. At the wedding, there was a Maulvi giving a sermon about how women are supposed to be obedient and what is their suitable role in life etc so people subscribing to that mindset would be traditional. If there id more to your life than merely the pursuit of a big house, European sedan fancy dresses then I might want to spend time with you,
Haha…not quite. True vanilla would be if his mother dictated that he is supposed to romance and love the girl she chose for him based on a matrix of caste, creed, social status, dowry etc…she would dictate how much he is supposed to love her, a bit more than the dog but a lot less than the dear mom, sisters, brothers and father. If she fails to hold dear moms favor he is supposed to immediately withdraw all affections and employ disciplinary and corrective measures.
Extra points for “… dictate how much he is supposed to love her, a bit more than the dog but a lot less than the dear mom, sisters, brothers and father.”
