Bobby1
March 13, 2017, 7:39am
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Re: How much should one compromise ..
The fact is desi culture is bull****. There is no upper limit on how much a woman should compromise, that’s the harsh reality. Women are expected to bear beatings, vile treatment from in-laws, neglect from husband (physical and emotional) etc etc. And even if she gets a divorce, or decides to take action to protect herself in the harshest of situations… inevitably her society and surroundings will find a way to blame her for the breakdown of that union. I can guarantee you every single member of GS has one such story of an acquaintance/family member/friend.
As a human being, if someone realizes the marriage is severely one-sided, then that’s it - call it quits. Everyone has flaws… you have to know yourself what flaws you’re able to accept and work on, and which ones are deal-breakers. Don’t expect desi culture to be a guiding factor, for anyone, in what decision to take.
Having said that… there does seem to be a positive trend toward acceptance and kindness, esp in the newer generation that has had access to technology and a bigger world than their mohallay ki aurtain. I hope it continues that way and Pakistan specifically can treat its women with respect.
West only treated women well after women empowerment and feminist movements and laws became very favorable and the women brought about a change in societies values. That ain’t happening there in a long time.