well why do ppl think of relationships as only romantic..we have many relationships and each deserves a 100%.
You are right these are some I can think of , Romance , Flirt , Fling, Conjugal, Keep, Parental, Friendship, Buddy, Blood , In Law, Employment, Classmate, Neighbor, Supplier,Government , Leader, Fan, Celebrity, Teammate, Co-Worker, Service Provider .
Re: How much should a person give of himself/herself in a relationship?
well i dont think there is any give and take formula in a realtionship..
after getting married i was not allowed to use my mobile ph laptop or internet...my husband didnt let me meet my parents or even call them..noone was allowed to visit me ...and i wasnt allowed to leave the house without his permission...
i wanted to make my partner happy so i gave my 100% and did everything he wanted me to do..still it didnt work..
i believe it has to be a mutual thing..or atleast a 50-50% ratio..but it can never work if u only try to give ur 100% and the other one doesnt put any effort in..
Re: How much should a person give of himself/herself in a relationship?
give all that you can....without losing yourself.
this is the same question i was pondering upon lately
and had a huge discussion over this with hubby dear....
mager kuch hasal nahi hova :S
Here are your answers:
marriage = all any other rela = not as much
give all that you can....without losing yourself.
^ and now?
That is such a sad story notorious. What is the ending?
I am just speechless as to what so many women on these forums have had to endure. How can Pakistani men treat women this way? Is this what our culture and faith has taught them?
Ending is she left him. :)
Re: How much should a person give of himself/herself in a relationship?
^ Yeah it sounds like she left him.
IMHO, you should give all of your strength to make a relationship work BUT not all of yourself. Meaning, dont give up who you are because you're married. If you do, its not a marriage...its a dictatorship.
Re: How much should a person give of himself/herself in a relationship?
Yes, I'm a divorcee now and life is so much better!
notorious
I feel sorry for you reading your story. I think mojority of today’s men are not like your husband. I have never been this cruel to my wife like this. We still fight alot but I never cross my limits.
Your story is abviously very tragic but I very strongly disagree with one sentence in your story you wrote:
"I always had to be ready for his sexual needs, he could go on about that stupid hadith that according to him says that a wife who refuses (sex with) her husband will go to hell, that the angels will curse her and continue to curse her as long as her husband isn’t happy again 
, that can’t be Islam!) "
You should say Istaghfaar for saying ‘stupid hadith’. Whoevr quotes this Hadith, needs to understand the logic behind it and not take it to his advantage. Just because you don’t understand, you cant’t say “that can’t be Islam”.
May Allah forgive you .
Re: How much should a person give of himself/herself in a relationship?
^ I agree, notorious your husband was a jerk but don't have those feelings for the religion.
You have to give any relationship all that you can but you shouldn't neccessarily lose yourself.
I guess I overreact sometimes when I get angry. When I'm less angry or not angry at all, I tend to see the situation better and realise I was going to far in saying something.
They often say I do that, overreacting. Like when I had found out that I couldn't trust certain friends, I got scared of all my friends and still am afraid sometimes that maybe they aren't worth trusting after all, even if sometimes they didn't do anything to deserve that. I think that's one of my problems, something I should work on.