And why ? They keep on moving on or you do , so what is the point ? It is not like they are your intimate friends and share your joys and sorrows . There is no relationship, it is all work and no play at work most of the time.
Companies emphasize on team building and work hard to hold social events to bring their workers closer once in a while though , to network with each other and spend quality time together to bond. Why ?
Tomorrow there might be a re-organization or a lay off or a sell off and all that will go to waste. The bond you built with some co-worker will collapse in just a day. He/she will move on to some other company , city , country.
You and he/she will have to start it all over again. Times have changed , very few people stick around in one company or one job long enough so why bother with all the team building , bonding and relationship ?
Just keep it strictly professional. You are selling your services not your social skills , but companies do value your social skills when it comes the time for promotion. So it is catch 22.
What do you say ?
Re: How much sharing of your life with you co-workers should you do ?
Peace Mirch bhai
Good question ... I think of businesses in a very paranoid and conspiratorial way ... I therefore say that the reason why they want us to bond is to share our stresses out so we maintain productivity. It also reduces suicide rates ... and hence litigations.
Re: How much sharing of your life with you co-workers should you do ?
Not really. I Haven't seen any team building going on in my company. It's too huge to collapse so that may have something to do with it. I think these team building activities happen in smaller stressful/busier companies/businesses/departments where it is deemed important. I have yet to witness it at my workplace. Three years ago, they used to hold picnics and stuff annually but they have done away with it since then. They avoid social meetings actually. Even our meetings are so damn professional and almost segregated. lol
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I have no problem sharing my life with my colleagues who are also friends - but it's mutual. And these are the colleagues who I might see outside of work as well. Mind you, I don't have a direct reporting relationship with these colleagues, so being friends isn't messy.
With casual colleagues, I have casual conversations - nothing too heavy.
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That's a good discussion. I used to get friendly with coworkers because otherwise, job would be too boring to not have friends to chat with (keep in mind these were all temp jobs) but last year I became really good friends with one coworker, a desi married mother of 3 kids...we started hanging out outside of work and stuff, unfortunately things went south and its made me really wary of making any friends at work. I would be much more guarded and not as friendly/social nxt time around.
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**of course, you have extended relationship with a very few at work who know more than most co-workers know about you. it doesn't matter if you move on or they do, the relationship stays. i met a couple of guys from India in New Zealand when i was on sabbatical and working for the University of Otago and i still have talk to them on a regular basis and plan to get together in India during Christmas, inshaa Allah.
so, yes!**
Re: How much sharing of your life with you co-workers should you do ?
Not really. I Haven't seen any team building going on in my company. It's too huge to collapse so that may have something to do with it. I think these team building activities happen in smaller stressful/busier companies/businesses/departments where it is deemed important. I have yet to witness it at my workplace. Three years ago, they used to hold picnics and stuff annually but they have done away with it since then. They avoid social meetings actually. Even our meetings are so damn professional and almost segregated. lol
I work for a Fortune 500 company . It is one of the most admired companies as per Fortune magazine . That is why I told you to find some good job with some good company , but you did not listen thinking I am just a moulvi. :D
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^:D.. Kia karoon Mirch bhai mujhe dekhte hi log kalma parhna shuru kerdetay hain.
The company I work for is too big. I'd say it's as big as AT&T.
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NONE..wt so ever! I don't think I EVER shared anything personal with my co workers..lol, never even about if i had a crush on a boss or smtng..lol
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There's only two coworkers that I share more personal issues with....one more so than the other because of similarities in culture. There's consistency between their words and actions....which is why I have more trust in them. If I develop strong rapport with them...I open up a bit more.