i hope you are joking by saying this, that is not the attitude you should be taking with you especially if you are going into a joint family because i fyou are living with family…then act as a family…
as far as jahaiz…the whole concept stinks…everyone who has gotten married in my family, Alhamdulillah has the same atittude…even when i got married, my husband made it clear that they did not want anything…and the same when my brother got married…and nowadays, we are preparing for my brother in laws wedding, and we have said the same thing…but what I have found over the years…is that the groom side will say we dont want anything, but the brides’ family and parents still want to give something, they feel that they want to…so we always say of course you can give what you want to your daughter, but give to your daughter, what you want…but like in my brother in laws case his wife, inshallah will come to USA after a few months, so they should not buy anything that is of no use to her there…and in our house in USA, Alhamdulillah their room is already all set up, and we have everything…