Don't go with nothing, but bring things that will be practical. You're right, you dont need several bed sheets or fancy dish sets. I dont know if this helps, but here are just some suggestions:
-two sets of sheets (not fancy, they are covered anyways!) -one fancy comforter/bedspread set -one comforter set for everyday use -one dish set with enough place settings for guests -one dish set for regular use at home -a set of pots/pans -casserole type dishes for serving food -food storage containers -cutlery -towels -knife set -set including slotted spoon, serving spoon and ladle
I think this would be the bare minimum that you could bring. Its not necessary to bring everything at once, and if your in laws have said they dont have room, then this gives you the perfect response if they ever do throw it back in your face. You can slowly make lists with your husband or in laws and see what you need or don't have. I agree that you shouldnt be bringing huge appliances...if you're living in a joint family, will you just have a room for yourself or a floor of the house or what? If you want a TV for your bedroom, then you could get that, otherwise I dont think you should burden your parents.
don't you get a lot of these things as wedding gifts though? iunno in our family jahez is only clothes, so this list is a bit weird for me