How much is too much?

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Re: How much is too much?

@redvelvet

It’s hard to answer the question of how much is too much because it varies for each person. But I think that as long as your communication is not getting in the way of your daily routines (family, work, chores, etc) and goals…as long as you’re not putting things on hold for him and are also paying attention to yourself and other important people in your life…you should be okay.

As far as engagments are concerned…who cares what “no one” thinks? You and him (if it gets to that stage) need to decide what’s beste for you both as individuals and for your relationship. What’s considered a long engagment is subjective…but I personally like engagements…it gives you time for planning/reflecting. And it’s okay to be engaged for a few months (even after he gets a job) rather than rush into a wedding. But you’ll figure that out when you get to that stage.

I think I’m a little confused/worried because I think HE sees it as an engagement period. Like, he’s not mushy but he’s making it seem like we are FOR SURE getting married, I’m gonna be his wife. I’m a reserved person so it’s really weird esp because there HASN’T been a finalization or an engagement at all. Iono why I feel like I’m doing something wrong, like something “not shareef” (okay really stupid , I know, but I’m gonan blame it on my super ultra conservative parents and their outlook on marriage)…I just wanted to make sure that I wasn’t doing something majorly wrong.