Im wondering about the mentality here of our men.
How much involvement are you willing to put up with from your parents and inlaws?
Do you expect your wife to obey your parents?
Does your wife expect you to obey hers?
Re: How much is TOO much? No, really.
I think the key to success in life is balance. Then of course we cannot ignore rights and responsibilities. I think as a wife I should be tolerant and accepting of what my husband needs to and wants to do for his parents. Most men are sensible and often times I feel it's the women (wife and/or mom) who make things nasty.
Looking at all those parents/inlwas/witch-mothers thread I am so glad my parents never told us what to do.
They mostly suggested 
To you 99% ppl here, if I had your parents I would kill my self, Think about that 
I think the key to success in life is balance. Then of course we cannot ignore rights and responsibilities. I think as a wife I should be tolerant and accepting of what my husband needs to and wants to do for his parents. Most men are sensible and often times I feel it's the women (wife and/or mom) who make things nasty.
Nikki said it right. I think some guys are way over the top too but from what I have seen in and around my family its usually the women on either side who have the problem
I think the key to success in life is balance. Then of course we cannot ignore rights and responsibilities. I think as a wife I should be tolerant and accepting of what my husband needs to and wants to do for his parents. Most men are sensible and often times I feel it's the women (wife and/or mom) who make things nasty.
this.
I expect my and her parents to suggest things and not order things and I am open to the suggestions (and expect the same from my wife).
Re: How much is TOO much? No, really.
nikki hit the nail on the head. :k:
Do you expect your wife to obey your parents?
ofcourse; what kinds of question is that?
Does your wife expect you to obey hers?
depends.
ofcourse; what kinds of question is that?
depends.
Explain
Re: How much is TOO much? No, really.
I think its not about obeying its about meeting each others' parents with love etc. Dil may jo bhi hai dil may rahe lekin moo pe har koi izat se milay, would solve a lot of problems.
Re: How much is TOO much? No, really.
respect given is respect earned..it goes both ways.
Im wondering about the mentality here of our men.
How much involvement are you willing to put up with from your parents and inlaws?
Do you expect your wife to obey your parents?
Does your wife expect you to obey hers?
"Involvement" can be negative interference or positive support. Depends on what the situation is.
Obey parents, no. Respect them, yes.
Word!
Re: How much is TOO much? No, really.
General rule is that parents need to be respected regardless whose parents are they. if a person has respect for elders, he/she will respect every elder, he/she not be necessarily related to them.
as far as involvement in one's married life from either side's parents is concerned, then i guess when a boy n gal tie the knot, they should know that they are going to start a new life. They are responsible for their good n bad. They should not bring every issue infront of their parents, but try to sort it out among theirselves. ANY 3rd party involement, be it parents or siblings, friends or neighbors, between husband n wife is not recommended.
Re: How much is TOO much? No, really.
Depends on the family I guess. I saw the other thread about the guy still giving his salary to his parents. That's just messed up. I don't think my dad will get involved like that, he's not that type of guy. He just lets me know he's there to give advice if I ask for it. My mom, (I hope!) won't be like that. She had problems with my dadi; they made her life miserable and so I seriously doubt she'll be a problem. And I will not stand for squabbling if it does happen. I'll tell my parents that my wife is my partner now, and for any marriage to work there needs to be complete trust. At the same time, I'll ask my wife to come to me about any problems and to be patient should a situation require it. I think mothers tend to suffer from "losing-my-son" syndrome. The guys need to man up and tell both parties to behave themselves.
I think the key to success in life is balance. Then of course we cannot ignore rights and responsibilities. I think as a wife I should be tolerant and accepting of what my husband needs to and wants to do for his parents. Most men are sensible and often times I feel it's the women (wife and/or mom) who make things nasty.
Now thas what i call intelligence ..
and to some this my hurt but the truth always hurts if one does not wana hear it .
I think the key to success in life is balance. Then of course we cannot ignore rights and responsibilities. I think as a wife I should be tolerant and accepting of what my husband needs to and wants to do for his parents. Most men are sensible and often times I feel it's the women (wife and/or mom) who make things nasty.
Word of wisdome (Y)
would like to read your other 19,854 odd replies :D