How much is a homemaker worth?

[Le_Pakistan]

Re: How much is a homemaker worth?

@snazzy

You know when a kid has homework and chores to do, why is it that he/she will choose homework? 1. b/c anyone else can do the chores, and 2. Doing well on homework is more valuable i.e. gets respect of parents, teachers, peers, maybe even a bump in allowance, and gains pride as well.

I think kids choose homework because they simply dont want to do the chores, and not because of your point number 2. That is a little bit too far stretched.

@snazzy

Homemaker - feels like anyone can do her menial work, and she doesn't often get respect for doing it well, just criticized when she doesn't do it. Poor job satisfaction. also falls behind with the outside world and can't relate to the rest of the family - seen as someone who just "doesn't understand*" -* it's really about feeling worthless and unappreciated. The breadwinner's worth is quantified and made known -he has a big fat cheque that comes with it. Often, the homemaker's is minimized and can't even be seen. .

I disagree. Not everyone can be a good homemaker. I know a lot of examples of women who simply don't know how to clean their house and where to start. Or how to prepare meals for more than 4 people. Who panic when unexpected guests come.

I don't understand what you mean with the coloured part. Unless you stay inside your house 24/7, other than that it's definitely not the case.

@snazzy

Also, I think the job a homemaker does, if you look at it objectively, is pretty bad. She gets stuck cleaning people's dirty laundry and dirty dishes, cleaning up peoples' messes, cleaning toilets, showers. And then if someone can't find their shirt the next morning, she gets told "why didn't you do the laundry??" granted, it's all people that she loves, but how many husbands' paid jobs involve that kind of "dirty work"?

I don't know man. It is not as if you are cleaning dishes and cloths of random unknown people. It's your own child's and husbands mess.

The couloured part. There are many people who work in the cleaning bracnch and have to clean messed up toilets in public areas etc. cleaning random peoples mess. Thats more disgusting than cleaning your own toilet.

@snazzy

If I had a choice (i.e. no kids) I would pick being respected in an office with all the stressors that come with it, over not respected at home but living a less intense life any day. I also think that regardless of whether their spouse works outside or stays at home taking care of kids and food, everyone should wash their own dishes (like the plate you ate in or the spoon you used) and laundry. No one should have to regularly deal with your dirty underwear, jhoote bartan, or poop-splattered toilet for that matter, cleaning toilets takes 5 mins, it's a job that anyone who uses that toilet should do.

Now you are giving two statements, being respected in office and not being respected at home. You are making it sound like as if homemakers are always being disrespected for their hard work. And that people who work in offices always get respect. It is not like that.

!!!Before some people start getting convulsions, these are my views and I am not shoving them down on anyone's throat!!!

[stoppit]

Re: How much is a homemaker worth?

Well if men really cared they'd put the flipping toilet seat down and dirty socks in the laundry basket.

[NomiCA]

Re: How much is a homemaker worth?

@stoppit

Well if men really cared they'd put the flipping toilet seat down and dirty socks in the laundry basket.

i do that........also i clear the tiny hair after shaving......... am i caring enough then??

[stoppit]

Re: How much is a homemaker worth?

@NomiCA

i do that…also i clear the tiny hair after shaving… am i caring enough then??

pls teach mr.stoppit to do the same. especially the hairs after shaving

now someone find nomi a wife.

p.s. once you are married i can guarantee you will stop bothering because a little fairy will seem to come along a do it all for you.

[NomiCA]

Re: How much is a homemaker worth?

^ i hope i get a fairy …although i am prepared for a little witch

tell mr.stoppit to join the forum…

[UZ]

Re: How much is a homemaker worth?

@TLK

So yahoo put this article on their website and estimated that a homemaker is worth about $96K, because of the services he/she provides (Private Chef, House Cleaner .. etc)

http://finance.yahoo.com/news/much-homemaker-worth-182358580.html.

What I fail to understand is that when we all get into analyzing the households from business perspective, and make a homemaker look like the one who is getting unfair end of the deal, why we dont calculate into the wager that they live in a house for free (we should reduce the rent from their estimated pay) and eat for free (grocery for free), bath/blow dry/ for free (do not pay utility bills), drive the car for their needs too (no car payments), dont pay for their medical bills (assuming that they are covered under the insurance of the breadwinner) and all the other good stuff.

When will we stop the drama that homemaker (AKA Aurat) bohut mazloom hoti hai. I think that its a fair deal if nothing else, if hubby works and wife takes care of the domestic chores and not getting paid for that.

In this article they are talking about how much everyone is worth not about expenditure. You make money you get paid but you have your expenditure, homemakers have wear and tear too and we have to deal with it. From business point of view I am not impressed and from Islamic point of view, only ladies job is to take care of their kids not do all house hold works.

[TLK]

Re: How much is a homemaker worth?

@UZ

In this article they are talking about how much everyone is worth not about expenditure.

Good point UZ.

But is not that how many of the members are seeing it in this thread. They seem upset that homemaker (AKA Wife) is not appreciated or compensated for the things she does at home. My point is that yes she does not get compensated, but dollar for dollar, she does not get a bad deal of the bargain either (as she does not have to pay rent, bills, make car payments and all that)

[Reha]

Re: How much is a homemaker worth?

@diwana

I really do not see any reason for the aggressive tone in your posts unless you want to show you are a tough fighter for women. ** What aggressive tone? It is what it is. I am not being aggressive...I politely apologize if that's how it came across but this is mere honesty. Nothing more or less. **

Read above, if you are among those who agree that a price tag be placed on what wives do at home then there are some bad words could be thrown at you too. ** There were no bad words. A chamaat is a slap...a slap a mother might deliver a child if he/she decided their mother was worth any paycheck he/she could afford. **

I leave those word for imagination only.

Nowhere I said ALL men help their wives at home. A lot do, some do not.

Women do have life easier made by good husbands and it shows these days. All facilities including washing machine, dishwasher, vacuum cleaner good cars etc. etc. HAVE made lives easier for women.

And not all the work is done by women at home by themselves. Many services are paid for by husbands who work hard to pay the bills.

Women these days are not so bechaari in this regard as in older days.

The complains from women still does not seem to reduce.

Men requirements are simple. A shirt and jeans, he is happy.

Loads of expenses in many household are because of women.

When someone start thinking I and I only, or me me me! that is where problem begins.

It is interesting those who think a woman is worth X amount of money because of household services she provides completely neglects that the math provided was based on MEN who are already paying for these services in many households.

And if a woman has all these services provided to her, then her worth is very low. I am only talking in terms of stupid math which was presented in that article.

P.S. Who made you a mod by the way with such an attitude?

Diwana, this is all rubbish and the reason is because you refuse to actually value a woman. No one can teach you the value of human life or the actual place of a woman...those things are a part of your upbringing and parenting. Its why you're ill equipped.

A woman's worth is low? That's nice. Again...let's see what your mother has to say about this. Or your wife for that matter.

The point in this thread is to VALUE what a woman does and all you do is try your best to DE-VALUE it by trying to say that a washing machine takes care of it all. How? I still have to round up the clothes, put them in, transfer, fold and put them away. What part did it take care of? The scrubbing? The dishwasher still has to be loaded and unloaded. It doesn't do that on its own. The floors still need to get mopped and swept. The food doesn't cook itself or serve itself. The kids don't change themselves, feed themselves or educate themselves. You know what else? The vacuum still needs someone behind it to turn it on and use it. It doesn't clean the entire house on its own.

Your ideas are so...strange.

And what help are you paying for right now? Unless you live in a country where its readily and cheaply available...most of us cannot afford that help. My mom didn't have a maid with four kids in the US.

[NomiCA]

Re: How much is a homemaker worth?

:mirch:chill bro!

^ why must you talk about someone’s family or upbringing or calling them rubish or whatnot??..fine you disagree… no need to go overboard… juss sayin

[Reha]

Re: How much is a homemaker worth?

@NomiCA

:mirch:chill bro!

^ why must you talk about someone’s family or upbringing or calling them rubish or whatnot??..fine you disagree… no need to go overboard… juss sayin

Okay…I am not saying its bad. All I am saying is if you know the basics of any topic…you can argue logically. You can make a point. You have something to build on.

But here…you cannot.

I didn’t say men do nothing. I said women do a lot.

[diwana]

Re: How much is a homemaker worth?

@Reha

Diwana, this is all rubbish and the reason is because you refuse to actually value a woman. No one can teach you the value of human life or the actual place of a woman…those things are a part of your upbringing and parenting. Its why you’re ill equipped.

A woman’s worth is low? That’s nice. Again…let’s see what your mother has to say about this. Or your wife for that matter.

The point in this thread is to VALUE what a woman does and all you do is try your best to DE-VALUE it by trying to say that a washing machine takes care of it all. How? I still have to round up the clothes, put them in, transfer, fold and put them away. What part did it take care of? The scrubbing? The dishwasher still has to be loaded and unloaded. It doesn’t do that on its own. The floors still need to get mopped and swept. The food doesn’t cook itself or serve itself. The kids don’t change themselves, feed themselves or educate themselves. You know what else? The vacuum still needs someone behind it to turn it on and use it. It doesn’t clean the entire house on its own.

Your ideas are so…strange.

And what help are you paying for right now? Unless you live in a country where its readily and cheaply available…most of us cannot afford that help. My mom didn’t have a maid with four kids in the US.

I stand by each and every word I said and explained why I said what I said. Read above again what I wrote.

I seriously think you have no clue what I said and need to go back to school from kindergarten. Period.

You have no idea of my upbringing. When run out of argument to contrary you show your low level of education. You should be warned and given points of talking consistently like that.

[khattichic]

Re: How much is a homemaker worth?

@kakaballi

how many wives help out with husband’s office work? :halo:

I DO!!! My hubby would be totally lost without my help!!! I was a journalism major with a minor is English…who do you think edits/proofs all his emails/proposals/projects for his work…ME!!! Who wrote his papers for him his last year in undergrad…ME!!!

and to be fair with total disclosure here…he changed diapers, helps me with housework (i don’t clean bathrooms!) and is very hands on with our boys…so there

gender related generalizations are really starting to bore me…believe it or not, there ARE healthy, respectful and functioning marriages out there…