I have no idea how much gold my in-laws are going to give me - not in tola's anyway, it's not something that has been discussed by either me and my fiance or my family and his.
Whatever they give as long as it is given with the right intention - it's all good. To be fair I rarely wear gold - especially Asian gold. I don't like this tradition of giving stuff just so that it can be seen and commented upon by the varadari/khandan (family) - think it's quite vulgar actually. But I understand that the bride has normally little or no say in the matter.
exactly the same. i really hope they (in-laws)don't give me too much, they know i rarely wear gold and light jewellery anyway so i'm hoping they will take that into consideration rather than let the the thought of 'what will other people think?' override that.
since the in-laws will be getting me something regardless i have been telling my mum that i don't want anything from my parents (what am i going to do with 2 sets?) but my khala and mum are insisting. it really won't have to be a particular weight though and as far as i'm concerned the lighter the better.