I think the more freedom you give someone - the better the relationship, but I suppose that could create distance too at the same time, huh?What do you think?
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I think trust is key in a relationship. With freedom you have to create a healthy idea. You shouldnt let your significant other just go around and flirt with anyone... but you should also trust them enough not to go through the email, phone, etc. I think I would be able to trust my husband as long as he shows me that he loves me and cares about me.
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first of all what sort of freedom are your talking about, are you talking about letting your significant other talk to ppl of the opposite gender and be friends with them and let them hang out when u r not around, or just freedom where ur partner is allowed to still test waters even tho he/she is with you. If you mean the first one then i would say i wont give it completely but to a certain extent and the same goes for me. And if you are talking about the second option then its a complete NO NO. Call me conservative or whatever.
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for me, it goes like, if you love someone, let it go, if it comes back its yours, if it doesnt, it was NEVER yours, so me, i will never bound someone i love... NEVER, he will be free to whatever he wants to do, not because i'll be beliving in him, NO- just because I believe in MYSELF... m very confident.. :)
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It sounds like we are talking about a pet? No offense but Im not about to cage my spouse and only let him out on holidays or when he has earned brownie points. He is an independant person and he can do as he wishes. If I have to worry about how much freedom I should allow him, dont want him in the first place.
TRUST IS KEY.
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But what if he doesn't give you enough time?
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smack him one :halo:
give me serious suggestion.
for me, it goes like, if you love someone, let it go, if it comes back its yours, if it doesnt, it was NEVER yours,
**Meena: **I remember this dialogue, it's from the movie Ilzam from the late 80s... In early 90s I was a teenager and was going through rough time.
One day I was watching this movie and since this dialogue was said by the Heroin's dad in the movie - I took it as a serious advise too, as I was looking for something that would make sense in MY life, from an ADULT perspective.
*BUT - turn out that was the WORST advise ANYONE can give to someone. *
You know why?
because the guy whom I fell for - came back but then disappeared, then came back again, then disappeared - and this happened plenty of times till I managed to call it off somehow.
I felt comforted when I had watched this movie and the dialogue made me think - that if he comes back he would be mine - forever. But that's just not true.
I blame the movie for misleading me! I am still hung up on that dialogue - that I know will ruin MANY more girls life - who will take this phrase "if you love someone, let it go, if it comes back its yours, if it doesnt, it was NEVER yours" seriously.
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Not much.
I say keep them on tight leash. That's my philosophy of successful relation ship.
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freedom, pusssh:rotfl:, i’m gonna put him in a cage on the shelf so he’s never out of my site and put a video camera on!!
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When he loves you, he doesn't need freedom from you in any way, shape or form - it goes the other way around - you're wondering when is he going to leave you alone for 5 minutes!
**Meena: **I remember this dialogue, it's from the movie Ilzam from the late 80s... In early 90s I was a teenager and was going through rough time.
oh wowwwww...how old are u?
When he loves you, he doesn't need freedom from you in any way, shape or form - it goes the other way around - you're wondering when is he going to leave you alone for 5 minutes!
Exactly! When he really loves you, he wants to be around you all the time!
The thing is, deep down inside my heart I want to know I can trust this person with my eyes closed. I dnt want to worry about their freedom level or keeping them on a short leash. Im not a jealous person and dnt want a jealous spouse. I want my husband to love me and be confident knowing he thinks Im beautiful.
Boys' night? Go for it! Have fun!
choooo chweeet… almost makes me wanna go and unlock the chain he is tied to on the sofa with. almost.
i have a longer chain for her. so that she can walk around freely and make food for myself n herself. but she is not allowed to leave the apartment, chain doesn’t go that far.
oh wowwwww...how old are u?
Mathematically between 31 & 37.
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If he doesnt spend enough time with you then maybe you need to make yourself a bit unavailable? I dnt like it if he is around me ALL the time and am sure he would feel the same if I wanted to spend all my time with him.