Re: How much do you judge a book by its cover?
We don’t know if having eaten too much birthday cake translates into a minor “bein’ a bit pudgy”…or if it’s a polite way of saying they’re obese, which would be a major issue. So if we cannot assume as I had earlier that there is absolutely no physical attraction, we also cannot make assumptions as to the degree (minor or major) of the issue. Weight can affect the way clothes look on you even if they’re designer variety and it affects your facial features, so this one aspect can potentially influence overall attraction. But for argument’s sake, let’s say the OP thought the weight was a minor issue. In the broad category of looks, only weight has been mentioned…and we are to assume that “some” attraction though it may not be “enough” is felt and that it’s a “minor” issue. In the 2nd scenario…in the broad category of personality, only ego is mentioned. We don’t know if this country-sized ego is a constant in every interaction 24/7, or if the country-sized ego manifests itself in certain situations. If we are to assume that the viewer feels “some” physical attraction toward the candidate who has a weight problem…can it not be said that “some” amount of attraction is felt toward the personality of the candidate with a big ego?
If OP has set up the equation to have us think along the lines k…candidate A has a perfect personality and a “minor” appearance issue…and candidate B is hot but has a “major” personality flaw…(so which one would you pick folks?)…is that not a skewed set-up? Why not treat the ego as a minor issue as well…because the degree of that is subject to debate just like the weight?
Another angle to consider is that…with candidate 1…let’s say the individual gets a current picture of him/her and it is clear in the pic that there is a weight problem. If DESPITE that, the individual STILL decided to meet the person to get to know them…we might say that personality matters more to the individual than looks. And in that case egotistical candidate B’s chances don’t look so good. ****Perhaps THIS is what you meant when you said earlier that if the rishta is being entertained then there must be “some” attraction. If you look at it THIS way…the equation OP has set it up is still skewed toward or in favor of the 1st candidate.