..friend before you write them off?
what is "maathlavi"?
do u mean "matlabi"????
oh yaar don't pick on my spelling lol
I tried to fix it but it won't let me.. but yeah that's what I meant :)
do it subtly so as to not look rude, sooner of later they would get the hint that you have discovered their maathlaviness :D
dont help a friend to please him/her, help any person just to seek the pleasure of Allah....
then his/her matlabi-ness will be of no meaning to u....
^I agree. Help a friend only if it makes you feel good in your heart to do so. Otherwise, don’t mess with it. As far as being “matlabi” and taking advantage, the world is full of people who are like that. They use you to their advantage for their own reasons and then have nothing further to do with you. To that, I say good riddance to bad rubbish. Allah mian has saved you again from such monsters.
waqas its up to you. In our culture's sharma hazoori, ppl like this get away scott free. They have taken advantage of you, next they will take advantage of someone else.
They need to know that you have figured out their game. If i were you I would even tell others how this person operates so they dont get used as well. Dont worry that is not back biting in my book, but stating factsthat the listener can choose to use or discard.
as far as how much BS would I take.. ZERO. As soon as I know whatthis person i s like, they are dropped.
how can you be sure that the person is matlabi and the fault is not in your perception of him/her? sometimes our judgements can be faulty too.
i believe that once you call someone your friend and in your heart accept them as a friend then stick with them forever and be accepting of their character traits.
^Irem, because matlabi log are unclean in their hearts and their actions are intentionally meant to take advantage.
Fraudz-waqas its up to you. In our culture's sharma hazoori, ppl like this get away scott free. They have taken advantage of you, next they will take advantage of someone else.
Well believe me it's not just people from our own culture.. Though people have mostly experiences with their own kind and hence like to attribute any negative quality with ‘their own people’.
It's a trait like with all others that can be found in all people. I will say that arrogant people tend to be very bad at hiding it. Often they don't even try!
They need to know that you have figured out their game. If I were you I would even tell others how this person operates so they don’t get used as well. Don’t worry that is not back biting in my book, but stating factsthat the listener can choose to use or discard.
Well I think this depends on what it is they are doing. I've often found matlabi people tend to stick together and often use and abuse each other all the time without even realising it. lol
There was a time my friend introduced me to someone who he considered his best friend. I saw right through him right away. This guy was absolutely horrible. I did speak up and at least let my friend know because the extent of how he was taking advantage of him and our little circle was just too much. There were some pretty seriously messed up the things he was doing.
What happened? This guy managed to get everyone to turn against me? Unbelievable! Til this day they all think he’s such a great guy and I just have something personal against him!
I was the only one he could not take advantage of and at first I only trusted him cause my friend did.
Never ever ignore the little things ...cause usually they hint at far more serious problems. Always trust your instincts. They are usually pretty accurate.
As far as how much BS would I take. ZERO. As soon as I know whatthis person i s like, they are dropped.
Agreed... I usually confront anyone who tries to mess with me if it’s serious and then walk off.
irem how can you be sure that the person is matlabi and the fault is not in your perception of him/her? sometimes our judgements can be faulty too.
I agree in this particular case I waited a long time to make sure I was certain cause I did not want to say anything unless I was sure of what I suspected all along. I think it really depends on your experiences. I've seen a lot.. And after a while you just know.
I believe that once you call someone your friend and in your heart accept them as a friend then stick with them forever and be accepting of their character traits.
In a perfect world such would be true. I still often wish it was. You really do gotta be careful.. there are a lot of very cruel and selfish people in this world.
Often they appear to be the nicest on the outside. Typical car salesman tactics... win their trust become their friends and then screw em over first chance you get.
I would have to say one sided 'friendships' and 'friends only when they feel like it' come under the same category.
Honestly life is too short and there are far more worthwhile people to befriend out there.