This statement made me think about my marriage and how I’ve changed since. I used to pray regularly 5 times a day and read quran semi-regularly. My husband was the same before marriage, but after marriage we’ve both become so involved in our life together that we regularly miss prayers and haven’t so much as opened the quran in months… Is this a common thing with newly married people?
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Its not marriage that does that. We all have spiritual highs and lows throughout life. Its extremely difficult to keep a constant high performance. Inshallah if you make intention to read Qur'an even a few verses everyday and read salah then Allah will help you. We give the excuse that life gets us busy but the truth is we don't prioritise Islam the way we should. I know some couples who have actually become more practising after being married. It can go both ways.
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This statement made me think about my marriage and how I've changed since. I used to pray regularly 5 times a day and read quran semi-regularly. My husband was the same before marriage, but after marriage we've both become so involved in our life together that we regularly miss prayers and haven't so much as opened the quran in months.... Is this a common thing with newly married people?
it's not because of the marriage but rather due to slackness and ignoring the religion...knowingly or unknowingly.
people get more busy with life after marriage and until you have a very strong conviction with your religion, one can easily slack in ritualistic aspect of one's religion. it's just slackness.
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This statement made me think about my marriage and how I've changed since. I used to pray regularly 5 times a day and read quran semi-regularly. My husband was the same before marriage, but after marriage we've both become so involved in our life together that we regularly miss prayers and haven't so much as opened the quran in months.... Is this a common thing with newly married people?
Not for us. We both continued praying regularly and became more regular with recitation of Qur'an.
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Its not marriage that does that. We all have spiritual highs and lows throughout life. Its extremely difficult to keep a constant high performance. Inshallah if you make intention to read Qur'an even a few verses everyday and read salah then Allah will help you. We give the excuse that life gets us busy but the truth is we don't prioritise Islam the way we should. I know some couples who have actually become more practising after being married. It can go both ways.
Yes..i can pretty much relate to this. We all go through highs and lows of Iman. My thing is, as long as Salah is read on time. You do eventually catch up to be much better person..
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This statement made me think about my marriage and how I've changed since. I used to pray regularly 5 times a day and read quran semi-regularly. My husband was the same before marriage, but after marriage we've both become so involved in our life together that we regularly miss prayers and haven't so much as opened the quran in months.... Is this a common thing with newly married people?
Its just the matter of priorities....sorry if that sound too harsh
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i used to be soo good. And now, i am conscious that it's praying time but i will postpone and then it gets too late and i feel bad to pray kaza when i was actually free.
Also i ready twice a day..but not on time. Fajr i pray after getting up. around 8.30 am and isha i pray just before sleeping at noon. and mostly i do the farz only.
Otherwise i pray (dua and ayat kursi in head) daily when i go out from work and when i come back from work. This habbit is the only habbit i have not left after wedding.
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i used to be soo good. And now, i am conscious that it's praying time but i will postpone and then it gets too late and i feel bad to pray kaza when i was actually free.
Also i ready twice a day..but not on time. Fajr i pray after getting up. around 8.30 am and isha i pray just before sleeping at noon. and mostly i do the farz only.
Otherwise i pray (dua and ayat kursi in head) daily when i go out from work and when i come back from work. This habbit is the only habbit i have not left after wedding.
You're just going through a low period that's all. If you make the effort then inshallah it'll come back to you. Trust me its happened to me too but when you consciously make an effort it will work. Force yourself to do wudhu properly and take your time doing it. You just need to make it a habit again.
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in terms of reading the quran id suggest after every prayer read a little bit, like even a line or a page. most days when im tired ill only read a page and a couple of lines on a few occassions. then other days like the weekend where you have more time, try and read more.
you may seem like your more involved in your married life right now but do not forget that it was Allah swt that gave you the joy of marriage. He did not forget you so dont forget him. Instead try and earn rewards by making sure you start to pray regularly again and read the quran inshaallah whilst also helping your husband again.
nothing in this world is more important than allah swt.
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i used to be soo good. And now, i am conscious that it's praying time but i will postpone and then it gets too late and i feel bad to pray kaza when i was actually free.
Also i ready twice a day..but not on time. Fajr i pray after getting up. around 8.30 am and isha i pray just before sleeping at noon. and mostly i do the farz only.
Otherwise i pray (dua and ayat kursi in head) daily when i go out from work and when i come back from work. This habbit is the only habbit i have not left after wedding.
I do this too, but I'm not married. I went through a period of 2 years where I prayed all fard + nafl + tahajjud daily and then something happened (not sure what) and I just stopped praying altogether. Then I started praying on time and I'm in a slump riht now where I've started delaying namaz again. :S
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i used to be soo good. And now, i am conscious that it's praying time but i will postpone and then it gets too late and i feel bad to pray kaza when i was actually free.
Also i ready twice a day..but not on time. Fajr i pray after getting up. around 8.30 am and isha i pray just before sleeping at noon. and mostly i do the farz only.
Otherwise i pray (dua and ayat kursi in head) daily when i go out from work and when i come back from work. This habbit is the only habbit i have not left after wedding.
Isha at noon? No concept of qaza then.
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Something to ponder about and perhaps motivate..?
**"The prayer of a married person is worth 70 times more than a bachelor" - **Imam al-Ghazali (ra)
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For Fajr qaza, there is a time in which you cannot read it. I think it is before 12pm that Fajr qaza should not be read. As per what I read the satan accompanies the sun during the time it's rising. But I am not sure exactly what it was. So to be at safer side, I avoid doing Fajr qaza before 12pm. Please look it up because if you're doing your qaza at a wrong time, you might be unknowingly prostrating to satan.
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For Fajr qaza, there is a time in which you cannot read it. I think it is before 12pm that Fajr qaza should not be read. As per what I read the satan accompanies the sun during the time it's rising. But I am not sure exactly what it was. So to be at safer side, I avoid doing Fajr qaza before 12pm. Please look it up because if you're doing your qaza at a wrong time, you might be unknowingly prostrating to satan.
you can pray fajar qaza after sun rise and its better whenever you wake up just perform it rather than delaying it for the hours, i think you are talking about zawal time, you cannot pray at zawal time but its not that much long, you can perform qaza before and after zawal time.
ALLAH knows better
may Allah accept our prayers and grant us steadfastness ameen
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No @Tahurra
Im talking about the time when the sun has not risen fully, not zawal time. Ill try to look up and post here what I have read.
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so if it means thats the time of farz then, because the time of fajar is till sun rise.
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Please see this:
The prohibition on praying at the time of sunrise and sunset - islamqa.info