I am always reluctant to spend somuch money on one outfit, as I only ever like to wear it once or twice max 3 times, as it’s the same family, friends etc at parties, so you always want to wear something new and different, I do feel guilty as I apprecite the poverty that other Muslims have.
What do you guys do and how do you morally justify it?
I am from the Uk, and I love shopping here and Pakistan, etc etc and I want to know where the wages are so low in Pakistan for the normal working class then how can they afford these expensive clothes? For example say the ave wage is 10,000-20,000 rupees per month then how can they afford to buy one outfit?
I very rarely wear any outfit only a few times.
I don't go to Pakistan as often as I used to so I make the most of the clothes I do have.My mum and mother in law usually shop for me and they always buy the best they can afford,but if I really like an outfit,it doesn't matter what it cost,I'll wear it to death.
I still have Bareeze outfits from way back and I still wear them.I try to avoid really up to date suits as they can only be worn a few times,but I'm lucky that lots of relatives send me clothes as pressies.
I don't feel I have to justify my wearing expensive dresses.I work hard,I pay my taxes/zakat,and also contribute to several charities,so Allah has blessed me in lots of ways.Recently,I sent loads of my old clothes back to pakistan and my MIL told me that they provided for three girls' jahez,so that was worthwhile.
I know where you are coming from and I agree, but I mean to parties, we all wear them around the house and make use of them and we always pass to a charity and not waste, but I mean to a party.
They don't buy the sort of clothes we buy and the sort you see here. They don't dress up so much for shaadi's unless it's immediate family and when it is, they get their clothes made in a way that is practical for them, which might mean karhai being done over a period of months women working from home who are just above the poverty line.
As for me, I don't let myself be influenced by what other people are doing. If they want to wear a new outfit at every function that's their business. I hate having to much 'stuff'. I won't buy new stuff unless I really need it (and then I will send the old stuff to Pak), especially because my taste is more on the expensive side.
I don't make my formals too heavy, so I can wear them to non-wedding functions, so I usually wear them about 3-4 times in different gatherings. By which time, a few years have gone by so I feel it's okay to give them away. We don't have too many things going on in any given year anyway so it's okay. Typical example; wore a suit to my cousin's walima in Pak, then wore it to a davat in the UK, then wore it to another random shaadi in Pak... yes.. I took the outfit with me to Pak again, where most people would make new outfits when they go again.
Lots of davats in the UK but I don't dress up much for them anyway - light semi formals that last a couple of years.
I know where you are coming from and I agree, but I mean to parties, we all wear them around the house and make use of them and we always pass to a charity and not waste, but I mean to a party.
For parties,I do have new outfits,but mostly it's 'one dish'...'come over's...less formals get togethers,so I have no problem recycling outfits.
I'm only 5"3,so the latest fashion of loooong kameez and wide pants just don't suit me,so I mainly go for standard length kameez and team it with straight pants.
Each to his own I say :)