have any of you married someone who was really really in love with you .. they said theyll die if they dont marry you bcz they heart cannot forget you .. say you ilke them but you are not deeply in love with them .. at least not yet .. if you have how is it going after marriage .. do you think this is wise to do .. say they’re sort of clingy and get hurt easily even when you dont even understand sometimes why they are hurt .. otherwise they are normal and suitable in every way ( like shareef goodlooking and from good background bla bla) .. would you do this would it be a good idea ..
please just answer normally and dont bash me and be sarcastic .. if you do not like me or my threads then just dont respond
You can never be sure about people and predict how they will turn out!! I know of two people who claimed such daway and one of them actually did jump and break bones and is happily married to her. Now the one who only claimed to jump had an affair a few years into the marriage and put her thru hell and back!! You should get to know the person the best you can and gauge if he even holds true to small thing!! Forget the chaad taray and asmaan!! If he is willing to go and get gobi in baarish.. Hes a keeper!!!
By your description (re: someone who’s clingy and gets hurt easily), it sounds like someone I would constantly need to “babysit”. My husband needs to provide me with the same amount of emotional stability that I provide him. I can’t even be friends with someone like what you described…let alone marry and share a house, and have children with him! I don’t really care what they threaten me with (ie. they’ll die if I don’t marry them ). I need my husband to be a grown man. Not a child in a man’s body who’s going to be “hurt easily” in our relationship and is going to have attachment issues (ie. be clingy).
i dont think its a threat .. its more of a depressive state .. always crying saying they wished god would give them death cuz theyr heart is not listening to their mind
i dont think its a threat .. its more of a depressive state .. always crying saying they wished god would give them death cuz theyr heart is not listening to their mind
I agree. That's why I would never marry someone who is so unstable emotionally. In my opinion, a man in this state of mind is in no position to take on the responsiblities of a husband and possibly father. He needs to seek psychiatric treatment first and get his depression under control.
But at the end.....for me persoanlly.....any type of "I'll die or hurt myself if you don't marry me" does not work. You can call it a threat or something else......but either way, its difficult for me to have respect for someone whose entire existance depends solely on me.
They're drama kings/queens. Very annoying and will make ur life crap afterwards.
yeah exactly u r right, i have come across this type of situation in my life twice, both time found that they r just doing a drama to get extra attention & other stuff....
read the disclaimer .. its a serious issue .. i m tensed about it .. i cant talk to people i know about it cuz i dont want to be gossiped about and judged unjustly .. i dont need ur smart aleck remarks in my thread ..
sub muhabbat karnay marnay walay,dramay baaz, jazbaati, emotional, romantic, etc etc shadi kay baad ‘husband’ bun jatay hain ! so dont get carried away with that part :halo:
). I need my husband to be a grown man. Not a child in a man’s body who’s going to be “hurt easily” in our relationship and is going to have attachment issues (ie. be clingy).