So how many guests did you have at your wedding? Lets only discuss overseas pakistani’s as we all now that in pakistan you can easily get like 350 people at your wedding. So please only reply for US/ Europe/ overseas countries.
How many did you initially plan
How many actually showed up
How many people showed up who weren’t invited and how did you deal with it(did you say hey they can’t come, i cant afford extra people)
How many people didnt show up and you were like “seriously this person isnt coming after I went to all their functions!” and how did u deal with it (did you stop going to there functions?, did you say anything to them)
Did anyone say they were coming and didnt show up anyway, so you lost money on there meal/seat
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I'll just do the wedding day since our mehendi and valima we had pretty much everyone who was invited came. So the wedding:
- Invited: 330
- Actually showed up: 300 (might have been 290 - I don't remember the exact number)
- No1 showed up that was not invited. We had one aunty who we invited to the wedding day only, but she asked before the wedding if she could come to the mehendi instead of the wedding day because she was busy that day. Turns out, she wasn't busy on the wedding day, she preferred coming to the mehendi cuz it ws "fun." Needless to say, we didn't bother inviting her to my sister's wedding 1 year later
- We had a family of 10 back out of our wedding because their grandfather passed away 2 days before my mehendi. That was obviously understandle because we are super close to them. We had some people who kept dragging us along for the ride saying, "we are definitely going to come.. we will let you know".. and then 2 weeks before the wedding, they said they aren't. lol .. These were all people who were coming out of town
Overall, the people we invited and the number of people that showed up were pretty accurate. We had invited 330 people but had anticpated that around 30 people would not come - so our ball point was 300 anyway :)
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Oh actually we had a family fighting to come to the valima (this is a family of around 15 people).. but then when they did get an invite, most of them turned it down and I think 6 of them came. lol
We invited about 500, 480 came which included a family of 6 where only one person from the family was actually invited. We had a few people tell us they weren't coming then showed up. It was awkward because we had assigned seating. So when they came to the welcome table there wasn't a seating card for them. We had some wxtra seats in case something lole this happened, but of course they knew rhat we were putting them in yhe extra seats because they had no seating card. There were also people who showed up but they never RSVP'd. My mom left them 3-4 messages to find out but they never called back, but all of them came to the wedding. I had a close friend from school tell me she was coming. Then she didn't come and I never got a phone call or message about why she didn't come. I haven't spoken to her since.
Re: how many people actually attended your wedding
We had 550 (including children, had a separate ballroom for them)
Initially we invited 625.
We didn't have any uninvited guests (Thank God because we had a seating plan but we did set up one extra table in case randos showed up lol)
We had about 10 ppl who RSVPed yes but didn't show up. The worst was a family of 5 that sent a text message the day of the mehndi saying they had a "work emergency" and couldn't come. Later I saw pictures of all of them touring DC that weekend. SO annoying! We have cut off all ties with ppl that said they would attend but didn't show up last minute. If they can't respect my marriage then I have no room to be friends with them.
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The worst was a family of 5 that sent a text message the day of the mehndi saying they had a "work emergency" and couldn't come. Later I saw pictures of all of them touring DC that weekend.
That's horrible. The least they could have done was let you know ahead of time that they wouldn't be able to attend. I don't understand their reason for lying either. They could have simply stated that couldn't attend after all and left it at that.
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We had 700 invitees, 650 showed up. Yeah largish wedding, but we did not have a reception so everyone was invited to the wedding only. Mehendi was a close-family-only event with 40 people.
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Definitely! If they said they would come and didn't show up (without an excuse or lied about it) why would I be friends with them?
If I ever have a situation where I can't attend an event someone expects me at, I would call the person a few days afterwards and apologize and explain what happened. It's just the decent thing to do!
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Okay so im getting married next year, and from what I can tell, there seems to be people not showing up at weddings. Our hall capicity is 350 - and our number is exactly at that point. We cut a lot of families out or invited specific members (i.e mr and mrs only). Should I add more guests since people are going to flop anyways or should i keep my number at exactly 350?
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I’m actually surprised to hear that less people showed up than expected at most of these weddings. I have often seen more people showing up than expected.. recently I went to a wedding where they had to put up 2 more tables during the reception due to uninvited guests. I guess it depends on the size of the guest list - if your guest list is around 500-700 then its likely you are inviting just acquaintances that probably won’t show up. If you invite 200-300, most of them will be close family and friends that will want to come to your wedding for sure. Personally, I think its better to be safe than sorry and have around 1-2 extra tables to deal with any unexpected guests.
Also, you need to make sure people understand the Mr. & Mrs. is excluding kids and grandparents because a lot of desi still don’t seem to understand this concept
