how many of you chatted freely and behaved married to your fiance/fiancees?

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So almost as if you were dating…or rather its the same thing.

but in some families parents ignore it because they see the kids as already engagedanyway

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Every family/couple is different. Some prefer to wait until the nikkah to socialize. Some prefer to wait until after the rukhsati to chat freely. And some are comfortable enough to socialize after the engagement.

If you look at it from religious stance, then it's better to get the nikkah done prior to behaving "married." If you have not had your nikkah, stay within your physical boundaries but continue to get to know each others' personalities. This is a matter of individual opinion. You need to do what you feel is best for you and your relationship within the limits of Islam.

Nadz, you have created several threads on marriage and there is nothing wrong with that. You can create as many threads as you like. However, I'm getting the vibe that you're feeling nervous and scared. And when we're nervous...it's natural for our minds to become scattered and for us to lose focus and try to analyze WAY TOO MANY THINGS all at once. I've been in that position before and we don't realize that we're all over the place.

I think you should sit down, relax, and prioritize your concerns. And deal with the the tasks of pressing nature that you can presently handle. For example, right now, consider focusing on the communication issues from the previous thread. One thing at a time. Too much analysis will drive you crazy.

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ey? im fine.......

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U sure? You seemed stressed earlier in the previous thread about communicating issues with your hubby regarding clothes, etc. Have you reached some conclusion about that? If so, then that's great. I'm glad you feel better. :)

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oh that, yeh i know was stressed. but thats the only thing. otherwise im just someone who cant sit still and my mind is always on overtime, am always thinking about randomness and just conjuring qiestions outta a hat.....im seriously like this in reality...im always talking and going on and onnn and onnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnn

while my fiance is very quiettttttttttttttttttttttttttttttttttttttt

so my entire family reckons we are a match made in heaven..:?

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Opposites attract right? Who knows, your active mind and socialization can bring him out of his shell and give him some food for thought, right?

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You know what people - I am seriously starting to think the crazier the woman, more the suitors.

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fingers crossed.....yes hes very quiet doesnt really do the socialising and even when hes ina room full of people hel sit there quietly and only talk when asked a question, although he talks to me and afterwards he will sayyour voice was the only thing i could hear in a room full of140 people so its best i dnt talk` lol this is his reply when im asking him why he doesnt talk more to people.....:/

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HEHEHE yeh....really? i had alot of rishtey actually, god only knows why i settled for someone whose merely whispering when he thinks hes shouting

Timepass - March 2013
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Trust me girl, if he doesnt yell thats a GOOD thing. You dont want a verbally abusive husband.

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There are times when that happens but mostly from his side. Im not really sure how to act or what to do.

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i knowww........

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:hehe:

…and for that they gotta be daring and always needs to be ready for something new and crazy :smiley:

:woho:

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[quote=“redvelvet, post:55, topic:198583”]

If you look at it from religious stance, then it’s better to get the nikkah done prior to behaving “married.” If you have not had your nikkah, stay within your physical boundaries but continue to get to know each others’ personalities.
well said RV, my dad usually says “Mangani ki koi sharia haisiyat nai”.
i totally disagree with couples who act married…roaming around freely, shopping flat/house hunting together and spending all day together…wait till you are married or better still get your Nikkah done

a lot of misunderstandings and misconceptions occur at this point, as a lot of girls/boys put on a front and do not reflect their true character…i have seen a friends marriage fall apart for this reason, they communicated on the phone for 5 years and met a handful of times…they both portrayed a totally different image of themselves and their families, once they were married, they realised that they had both been putting on a false front, within 3 months they were divorced.

I am sure you will be fine…your hubby will love you to bits and will love to hear you talking all day long…btw a good idea for a birthday present (as per a previous thread) would be earplugs…:cb:

Bait Bazi March 2013