thanks, guriya- i’m glad someone on here doesn’t jump to conclusions about me
i wouldn’t let something like this affect my relationship with them- i guess i put it on here to let of a little steam about it since i would never say anything directly to them, you know?
as for the weight- my set is pretty light, and i know the shaadi set for my to be SIL is going to be heavy kundan w/gems-not sure abt the other..