Re: how long should one fret over an ended relationship?
Jeez, I was thinking about the same thing today, and even wrote a blog on a related topic, well a topic that stemmed from someone's relationship coming to an end. The funny part is that the 2 people involved have somewhat moved on but their families are still carving and fabricating stories about why it happened.
Anyhow, I think everybody has their own threshold of tolerating pain and agony, their own motivation to overcome, and the circumstances to get distracted and finally move on. So I guess the answer would be, each person takes their own time.
What is too much? When it's starts rubbing people around them the wrong way, such as being in the victim mode all the time, demanding sympathy, and blaming other people for the end of their relationship: why me and me alone and no one else type of mentality.
I have been in some intense relationships that did nto work out, and yeah it was tough for some time, and shadows of it still impacted me in who I became and how I grew and evolved but moving on is key, and moving on means that you just stop piunishing yourself by the what if, why this, wh that, hy not this, why not that type of scenarios.
its over, move on, deal with the pain, deal with the anguish, learn something from it, continue to live your life. I mean the person who walked away, that person is not running at light speed in a vicious circle..they hyave moved on.
why hurt yourself more than the other person hurt you? isnt that the key question here