Re: How long can u keep up the Good Hostess Act???
I have so many different faces when it comes to entertaining guests! There is so much that depends upon what I do. How old they are, how able to provide for themselves, what is going on in my own personal life.
When I was pg and when my 3 boyz were in diapers, I was SO much less of a hostess. I dreaded company, I did only what I HAD to do and I so looked forward to them leaving. Now that the boyz are getting older and that life has settled down, I can play the Martha Stewart/hostessy thing and I SO enjoy doing that! I love to cook and I LOVE to have people over who like to eat. It makes so much difference what your current situation is and exactly who it is coming over....are they capable and comfortable enough to "make themselves at home" or are they older and need to have the extra care etc. Nowadays, I dont care whether they are capable or not, I LOVE to play hostess since I finally CAN!! :)
Re: How long can u keep up the Good Hostess Act???
Besides family who have just passed by and looked when it was first finished, no one has come over for anything. honestly i'd love to invite ppl, but i look at our place and, i know this sounds bad, it is not something i want others to see and comment and gossip about later on. I dont know if my thinking will change once we move (InshALLAH!) or ill think that way there toO?
^i think that is entirely a different case....it's common for inlaws to not praise the dulhan. I hope I wont face such situations when I'm there!!
I don't think its common to not receive praise. I guess it varies from family to family. Some shower with praise even if food is bad. I remember I had made some salen in my in laws when I 1st got married and i got praise for it. And as I am NOT used to cooking in pak, some different ingredients etc....I tried to make sumthing im so good at here...but it was horrible when I made it there...but no one said anything. My husband as well as MIL ate it...hehe..and even said very good.
Re: How long can u keep up the Good Hostess Act???
I also visited life1 forum after reading corruptangel's comments.
i guess GS girls have the worst Inlaws and they get worst guests every :S:S
Story is totally diffrent on our side. My parents are known to be the best parents in law in the community and my bhabi also thinks that she is lucky to get married in our family just cuz of the affection she gets from my parents, same goes for my sister, she is married into a totally strange family and her parents in law love her to death, they cook for her and take care of her and they want my sister to visit em every weekend and stay there, (my sister does the same)
and now coming to the original topic of guests, we are privacy lovers (specially me) and we are not fonds of having guests alot, but still if someone comes the first thing we say is "feel like home". doesn matter he comes just for few hours or days or months, he is given a great company, great foood and we really make em feel at home. we also get alot of white/ christian guests on regular bases and they are so impressed by our culture and religion just cuz of the hospitality. My have had 4 surgeries so even if she is not feeling good i would just order something from outside for guests or my dad would just turn on the BBQ stove outside to cook for guests. and believe me we get treated the same way wen we visit someone else.
Might be we are a extra obsessive family about religion thats y we behave like this and our company is also like us and we get treated the same way :S but after reading the posts here and in Life1 forum i really thing that u guys are really living on some other bad planet :s or its just me whos in the minority :S
