How long after delivery ..

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Re: How long after delivery ..

@Muzna

I’m sure that I will get beats for this but I’m gonna do it anyway…

I’ve seen many an infant that has a mis-shapen head because the parents failed to be vigilant about the way the baby lay or slept. I’ve seen babies with both sides of their head flat, babies with the back of their head flat and babies that have one side flat and one side round because he/she prefers to sleep/lie mostly on one side.

Most times we have not been close enough to the couple to mention anything…and other times the new mother is so tired, emotional and sensitive that you just don’t feel comfortable providing even the slightest suggestion that might require additional effort on her part.

The truth is that nobody is going to point out that your baby has a weird shaped head (reminds me of the Seinfeld episode of the baby at the beach house). It will be up to you to know what “should” be a good shape for the head and to monitor how the skull bones are coming together as your baby grows.

While there are many old-wives’ tales about many things this is one of those things that, if followed, can’t harm your baby. And frankly that’s the litmus test for me. If doing it will not cause any harm but not doing it may have a 10% chance of something going wrong, then I’ll prefer to just do it.

My husband happens to have big issues with miss-shapen heads…he notices them right away…he encouraged me to prepare but as it turns out, Noor was delivered by c-section and her head was round as a football from the get-go. Still we used a rolled up scarf, like Saadia mentioned, to ensure that the bones joined together in a consistent way to keep the head round.

and the shower thing…I did it within 24 hours of the surgery…with the staples.

completely agreed .. thanks so much Muzna, the point is exactly as you and many others here said, if something isnt harming the baby and for their well being mothers take certain remedies then its all worth the effort. My sister had slightly curved fingers at birth .. my mom tied each of her fingers with a spatula and wrapped it with a bandage .. and Alhumdullillah that sorted out all her fingers .. but dad didnt let mom do the same on her toes coz he thought it was hurting her so much so she ended up having slightly curved toes .. and till date she is thankful to mom for making the effort to straighten her fingers .. somethings just got to be done ..

@SaadiaB

I know what you mean, with three kids I got to be such an expert in making this pagri that, the side where the neck lies I would roll it less higher than the other end, and I would press it so that it was flatter (where the neck is) than the side where the head ends, as you use soft cloth, the cloth kind of sits down, so it does not interfere with the neck.

Saadia, thats a really helpful tip , thank you so very much I am gonna do that .. so when you say soft cloth , what kind of a cloth is it? I am thinking of using one of my cotton dupata’s ? is that gonna work? and how much height did you give to the pagri? and one last question, did you lay the baby on it since birth and for how long each day do they lay on it?