how lasting is heartlessness (bey-dili aur pathr-dili)

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what is it?

behavioral intention
history of failures
error in judgement
some personal complex
double standards
dishonest nature
inability to recognize an honest response
personal confusion and weakness

also, what if, someone wants to know where the loss was acumulated, and why it was percolated, if you will, into some substance that blocks out all
honesty and makes one forget all things that were shared?

and if someone is hurting for the hurt of the person who left and only this person knows about it, how do you make peace with the belief that the person who walked away, was bad and does not deserve a second chance that you are probably okay in giving?

how do you make that person know that there was no need for a persistence in a positive prompt, to turn into aversion?

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Re: how lasting is heartlessness (bey-dili aur pathr-dili)

You are mentioning a very deep and far reaching kind of hurt, your experiences are still with you, time and sharing will heal Insha Allah

No one means to be bad, it happens in life , some wrong choices for some wrong reasons and hasty decisions some wrong words it all adds up, things go out of control.
They say you need to "Let It Be" and not dwell on it; and sound like you are repeating yourself but completely unaware of what is happening.

We all tend to be that way at times some more than others.

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Re: how lasting is heartlessness (bey-dili aur pathr-dili)

try to see it in this way. Could it be that it was merely dil-lagi and not bay-dilli/pathar-dilli as you would like to refer to the emotion?

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Re: how lasting is heartlessness (bey-dili aur pathr-dili)

thanks sind sagar,
i will 'let it be.'
knowing is what i am after.
afterwards, i will let it be.

too bad that he could not be secure even in this honesty and depth.
i have no regrets that is why i am trying to match and map where and why he went wrong.
yes, it is consuming my time, but since, i was part of the relationship, i want to dop my best, may Allah be my witness, that i cared.
and that over time, yes, things do change, but this person will repent later, as i repeat his loss.
i could appreciate being an obedient son, had he been honest before proposing , and bringing his mom to my home.
it is that betrayal that he has caused and for that he will suffer and i feel still that for the sake of my honesty, i must do all i can to crack open this ending which is no ending.
it is only disappointing severely, that he is not here to own up to his mistake, to acknowldge his cruelty.
if his ego revels in the attention it is getting, so be it.
my purpose is to make him realize that he is wrong and not that he is cherished.
he did not leave any reasons, since he did not show up and ethically brought a closure that was acceptable.
thanks though for affirmation.

dushwari

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Re: how lasting is heartlessness (bey-dili aur pathr-dili)

some people disregard their own honest emotions like their own enemies.
and they do not recognize at all, that they are being self deceptive and nothing else.
i can try to see it his way.
dil-lagi would be when he would have taken advantage of me, which i know i would not allow him or anyone.
this credit i give him.
in this world filled with so many vicious men, he
did not berate his self in this regard in my eyes and heart.