Well, I happened to talk to a 30 years old (my guess) person who has been married to a very young child who is still waiting for her first menstrual cycle after which she will be sent to his home for the wedding night. I got shocked. I tried to make him realize what he is doing but just to increase my frustration he added that it’s a totally legitimate thing, practiced even by The Holy Prophet (PBUH) himself.
I did some research and came to know that Hazrat Aisha (MABPWH) was just 6 years old at the time of nikah and Her rukhsati was at the age of 9.
Now I am very much curious. Our Holy Prophet (PBUH) performed it so
I do believe that there must be a rational behind this child-marriage, something he wanted to teach us but I do not seem to get hold of it due to my poor understanding and knowledge.
In the above context, Their should not be any problem if A murder B, and family of B takes (do nikahs with) 1 or 2 females of family B for settlement even if they are not ‘ADULT’ provided they take good care of them.
Well child-marriage in that case is good to some extent as it helps, keeping both of the families from further conflicts, murders and atrocities as they become relatives but for the young girls it is unfair to bear the actions of their brothers, uncles or father but as Islam gives the parents authority to engage them in a life time relationship with some one twice or thrice of their age, when they are not mature enough to decide for themselves. Those people put the religion in it to back their actions.
So my questions are.
Can any one please tell me, what scholars have to say about child-marriages in Islam and what actually Holy Prophet (PBUH) wanted to teach us from the child-marriage with Hazrat Aisha (MABPWH)?
the Prophet's marriages were a special allowance from Allah.. scholars have been apologetic in trying to find some "greater good for muslims" in them... where the greatest good is the message the Prophet brought with him.
He was a human being living in his times and wroking on reform while staying with the cultural norms. There are many things he may have done which are better left only to him and that time.
Go by the message he brought which states that marriage is to be done with the 'consent' of the concerned parties ..
A 6 year old cannot express consent.. Therefore underage marriage is not permitted in Islam.
Now leave the scholars and storytellers to speculate and concoct history about what they do not know.
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I did some research and came to know that Hazrat Aisha (MABPWH) was just 6 years old at the time of nikah and Her rukhsati was at the age of 9.
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This is not a confirmed fact. Various hadith cite different ages of hadhrat aisha at the time of nikah.
In the above context, Their should not be any problem if A murder B, and family of B takes (do nikahs with) 1 or 2 females of family B for settlement even if they are not 'ADULT' provided they take good care of them.
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that is definately haram, u cant trade women for ransom or settlements. may allah destroy the people who commit such henious acts.
prophet :saw: are a special case, no questioning what they do + in arabia back then it was a custom for a girl to marry young, ages which seem ridiculous to us @ present where fine back then. for example hazrat bibi fatima may allah bless her, had hazrat imam hassan and hussian and died only aged 18!
with respect to islam personally speaking i believe in this day and age such marriages shouldn’t take place. {may allah forgive me if i’ve wronged}
What’s wrong with it if they cunsumate it when she has started menstruation? You guys are so westernised in your thinking.
Homosexuality, adultery, fornication, porn and other filth is fine because the West allows it but a perfectly clean hetrosexual loving sacred bond of marriage is objectional to you only because of a stupid age difference, idiots!
Now after reading all the posts, few articles and discussions with few persons here is what I am down to. Please correct me if I am wrong.
1) Child-Marriage is allowed in Islam. (It is technically not a child-marriage as a boy with wet dreams and a girl with menses are not children any more.) This term comes from the west who have drawn the age limit of 18 to be a young and have consent where as Islam sees it with a more natural perspective. With the marriage of Holy Prophet (PBUH) Allah actually wanted to tell Muslims that there is no specific age limit (like 18 in western world) in Islam regarding marriage. A girl can get married as soon as she can bear children and the boy as soon as he starts having wet dreams. This helps them not to go astray in their teen ages and do not live a life of pervert untill they get married or do not commit other greater sins.
2) A significant portion of Ahadith is narrated by Hazrat Aayesha (MABPWH) especially the private life of Holy Prophet (PBUH) as she was young and lived a long life after the departure of Holy Prophet (PBUH) to share the teachings and practices of Holy Prophet (PBUH) with rest of the Ummah.
3) Holy Prophet (PBUH) has got some privileges from Allah and some certain limits do not apply on him (Like Polygamy) so although He has practiced the marriage in such a young age we still can not take it to do the same. This was a much practiced custom at that time but it's not a custom any more. So we can not make that marriage an excuse to marry in that young age in regular circumstances now days.
Theres solid evidence out there that Hazrat Aisha was actually 17-18 when she got the proposal..and 19-20 when she actually went to live with him. You guys can look it up tho..cuz everytime i put websites on this thing..the admin comes and edits it. You gotta go by the hadith system..and realize that some of the hadiths get canceled out when the source becomes unreliable.
that's not entirely true..but okay. there is no other mention of a child marriage in islam other then Hazarat Aisha and Our Beloved Prophet saws, BUT sources are now saying say that the man who wrote the hadith for Hazarat Aisha being 6 when promised and then 9 when taken to the Prophet saws, was actually incorrect, and he was an unreliable source, and they only found that out after he moved to Iraq. Judging by when the relevations to the Prophet saws took place, the ages of his other wives, and the presumed birth of Hazarat Aisha, it wouldn't make sense for Hazarat Aisha to be that young. It's all in the math. Islam teaches us that a young child is not responsible enough to make such decisions. So..then..they would you have a six year old accepting an old man's offer, and even if she would have accepted, its unlikely she even would be asked in the first place, and anyways..if some of u guys think its a cultural thing, such marriages didn't take place in arabia frequently anywayz. Like..i said..i get my stuff from a bunch of websites, which EVERYTIME I POST..sometimes just takes it off. i dunno..its all on the internet..the explaination...just look it up if it bothers you or whatever. - Much Peace
Islam allows child marriage. In 7th century, not only among Arabs, but anywhere child marriage was a norm, and after with the emergence of industrial revolution and progress of civilization majority of the societies rejected child marriage.
For Muslims it is normal because their Prophet had setup some irregular norms by marring minors.
Prophet has asked his followers to look like him and to do as he did.
Muslims try to find reasons and explore the ages of those minors is just eye wash. If Prophet had to give some social status to some girls who were much younger to him, or were minors, he could offer them other options rather marrying them. He could adopt those children or offer them sisterhood if the status was the only reason.
^ Doesn't that link address the issue of, "the man who wrote the hadith for Hazarat Aisha being 6 when promised and then 9 when taken to the Prophet saws, was actually incorrect, and he was an unreliable source, and they only found that out after he moved to Iraq"?
^ If by "the man" in your sentence that i posted just earlier you mean Hisham bin Urwa then the link shows that he WASN'T "an unreliable source" and DISPROVES the applicability of the claim that "they only found that out after he moved to Iraq". So your argument doesn't seem strong on this point. The link doesn't prove you right.
may allah bless her, had hazrat imam hassan 
and hussian 