How is the experience of dating Arabs?

^I sort of agree with this, unfortunately. In my experience there is a lot of racism among Arabs—so the whole skin shade issue might come up. Not unlike desis as another poster said----mom and dad might be OK with you bringing home someone with lighter skin, but a darker shade can cause problems.

My comments are not specific to dating but just to overall characteristics I noted in my experience with Arabs. Also, my experience is with non-Gulfies. I think there’s a load of difference between Gulfies and non-Gulfies in terms of social attitudes, level of spoiledness, level of exposure/ability to interact with the opposite sex, expectations in terms of looks, material provision, etc., as others have noted. So everything I’ve observed comes from being around non-Gulf Arabs.

I don’t think that Arabs necessarily tend to be less religious, but in my experience they are less dogmatic and less superstitious than desis. Remember that conservative and religious are not exactly the same thing----IMO Arabs are just as religious but maybe tend to be less conservative. Perhaps because they have the advantage of Arabic as a first language, they also seem to be less preoccupied with observing every last detail of sunnah----please don’t take offense at this—I just feel like perhaps the ritualistic aspects of religion are not as essential to many Arabs because their greater understanding of the language of the Quran, hadith, etc., gives them a more organic relationship on some level with Islam. For example in a mostly desi mosque I used to go to, there were always Bengali guys going around to all of the brothers and making sure their pants were rolled up and giving them perfumed oil to put on; most Arab guys tend to not worry much about the outward etiquettes like hennah in the beard, sunnah-length pants, wear perfume to mosque, etc., yet they have pretty excellent understanding of the Quran.

Ideas of dressing/modesty are different between Arab and Pakistani women. I noticed Arab girls who wear headscarves tend to be very careful that none of their hair is showing and also tend to wear long sleeves all the time (a lot of desi girls will have some hair showing, or their dupatta slipping, and will wear half sleeves even with full hijab headscarf.) At the same time, however, many of them will wear shirts or pants that are tighter than what many desi women would consider acceptable. I’m used to dressing in a more Arab style (wearing hijab Arab style, at home wearing caftan), and when my husband first saw me wearing a caftan at home he told me his mom would be upset that I don’t have a dupatta across my chest. This surprised me because the dress is long, covering, and not too tight, and in an Arab home the women will typically find this very sufficient and not wear some sort of extra scarf, etc., to hide the contour of their boobs. So there would maybe some adjustment of expectations in a mixed Arab/Pakistani household of how the girls should dress most properly.

I find Arabs to be very fun-loving. If you are around Egyptians you’ll always be laughing—they love to joke. And Arabs from all countries are great dancers and love music. They also tend to be very affectionate and are very sensitive that you put a lot of time into maintaining your friendships or relationships with them. They also tend to be very expressive and outgoing, whereas I find that many Pakistanis are more reserved or shy. An Arab house is almost always a very loud, boisterous house. The downside is that people tend to have hotter tempers and will shout more, argue more, etc., than I’ve seen Pakistanis doing. Very Mediterranean in this sense, not unlike Italians, Greeks, etc.

I also find Arabs to be more frank in some ways than the Pakistanis I’ve been around. For example, even in more conservative families, when girls are with girls alone or boys with boys alone, people talk quite openly about sex, love, relationships, etc. Seems to be me that people have fewer taboos in talking about sex, pregnancy, marriage issues, etc. The girls in my husband’s family are extremely shy to talk about anything like this; even right as they are about to get married or newly-wed, they will never, ever, ask for any advice or questions about sex, love, keeping the relationship interesting, etc. I still remember a sister of my Palestinian roommate who was about to get married----she was a very good girl from a religious family, quite conservative. Her husband-to-be had purchased a home for them and furnished it, and he gave her the keys so that she could show it to us. Walking into their bedroom made me blush like crazy, but she wasn’t shy at all-----the color scheme was red, and there were mirrors everywhere—including one on the ceiling above the bed!!! :hayaa:

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Yea arabs can be racist and arrogant, however I know an arab who married a black muslim convert :) But this arab guy is like nobody I've ever met or seen! If you just meet him once, you'd get such a positive vibe from him. Listening to him talk about islam, the life of the Prophet Mohammad (SAW) makes you feel so proud to be a muslim and motivates you to learn and follow what the Qur'an tells you and the way of the Prophet (SAW). Also his akhlaq are just wow! For instance, every time he comes across a homeless person he takes the time to talk to them. One time he gave his shoes away to one guy who liked them. The homeless guy was like I really like your shoes, and the arab guy was like, really? it's yours! and Just like that he gave his shoes and walked back to his car barefoot and drove home. It's people like him that inspire you to do good and help others.

Thank God there are always exceptions. :) I had a professor in graduate school who was an African-American convert, and he had married a Syrian woman. They were both very religious and I think she probably came from a home where they truly understand that Islam doesn't discriminate between tribes or races.

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dating? hada haraam!!!! lol thats what most arabs say to me :S

^Haram, indeed, but check out the upstairs seating at the local ice cream parlor after school gets out and you'll see the real story.

First of all dating is Haraam.

I don't see the fascination some Pakistanis have with Arabs personally i think their pretty retarded on the whole and their women aren't very good looking. The only good looking arabs are the Lebanese and they are more liberal than some white Brits.

Why date an Arab over a Pakistani? Just curious.

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^ Cos they want to??? Oh, and according to you dating is haraam but being a racist is ok lol

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Arabs smell like goats, so not good if you want to not smell goats.

^aahmed, is this your way of breathing life back into the thread after all the air got sucked out of the room? :)

Arabs love perfume and usually smell like too much of whatever their current favorite scent is. Which is still a big improvement over a lot of Europe and Turkey, where the predominant scent is eau de B.O. :D

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Do I have to be in the "paak" state when I touch an Arab?

They over-do the perfume and reek of Oud! Which Arabs have you been sniffing? :faizy:

:rotfl:

:omg:

i have no idea what arabs have you been sniffing, cuz in my experience all the arab girls i have come across are the nicest smelling girls infact sometimes the smell is overpowering, khair that besides the point.

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What is wrong with Arabs? Some of my closest friends are Arabs... a Lebanese couple, a Syrian lady, a Jordanian lady... the list goes on but they're an awesome bunch. Warm, loving, and quite liberal compared to most desis.

Five new posts in 13 minutes! Aahmed, I applaud you.

what the poster is asking is if they are date material or dateable for desis :k:

I did not see anything that noted a preference for arab person versus a Pakistani but just what people's experiences have been. You may be reading too much into it.

'dating' may be haram, but two people seriously interested in pursuing marriage meeting under right conditions to have an opportunity to understand each other is not haram.

And what a Bengali person is to us?

We need to get out of Jahliya.

Arabs and their houses smell nice but all that Arab girls can do is to talk about designer brands.

No U have to be in paak state after u touch an arab.

And we smell like goat curry :D
no wonder they get scared.

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hareem, you are preaching to the choir sista )