Re: How important or dear is the marriage function to you?
I think we should always maintain a level of mediocricy in events like these .. if you have the money, yes its your right to spend it extravagently, but most people forget their social responsibility, they are setting wrong examples and become responsible for the pressure that the less fortunate feel for their events.
In my case, my inlaws want a heavy extravagent wedding and I have taken a strict stance against it , I want to enjoy the event but not throw away the money, coz alot of their family and my family that will be attending it , may not be able to afford extravagent weddings and I would hate it if any of them later look at me with envy ..
Frankly , after a certain point it becomes a show off ! .. I told my MIL that why not we reduce unnecessary expenditure on both sides and with that money , perhaps get a less fortunate girl married... she mashallah agreed and so we are sticking to plan.
Where there's a will there's a way.