if you met someone and it was time to start sharing life stories and whatnot, how willing are you to tell eeeeverything to ? some people may conceal certain things to avoid being judged.. it does not mean they are lying, just hiding something they don't want to share?
what if it was something not directly related to you, but still concerned you? For example something about your family?
or maybe you think that some things have reached a statute of limitations, so no point in bringing it up?
It depends upon the credibility of the person you are sharing your stuff with… If you have spent some time with the other person and you know he/she has all the ingredients of a trustworthy person, then i would not mind sharing anything…
This is a tricky one. I think it depends on what that piece of information is exactly. Bombarding a person with all the skeletons in your closet the very first time you speak with them can be overwhelming. I think it’s better to wait a bit, but not too too long either. The longer you draw it out, it will become harder to emotionally detach from the person if they no longer want to pursue this…because feelings tend to become stronger with time. A person might also suspect that you were biding your time in an attempt to get them hooked into you so that they would be more accepting of you (possibility). So, not immediately and not too far down the road either.
In situations where two people get to talking as friends…where either one person or both persons have a “crush”…and they’re just getting to know each other without a concrete intention for marriage…you have more (just a little bit more) wiggle room in terms of time, I feel. However, in situations where there is a concrete neeyat for marriage from the very get-go (such as matrimonial apps)…I think you have less wiggle room and it’s better to get things out earlier on so that time isn’t wasted for both parties.
If it’s something that won’t affect your potential spouse in any way whatsoever …and if it’s something that won’t come into conflict with the potential spouse’s criteria for a mate or moral values that they feel very strongly about…then is it really necessary to inform them? Maybe not. It’s a subjective matter.
The question is very vague but I’d say there are details in my life that I wouldn’t bother sharing with anyone, particularly if they wouldn’t be affected in any way.
There is something about a closet that makes a skeleton terribly restless.
what might be deal breakers to some, may not be to others. and yes, not everything needs to be revealed, but if there is something which you think may prevent someone from further interacting with you etc, then it’s better to stay quiet and leave, or pen up and see what their reaction is, and go from there. if there is mutual understanding, then it shouldn’t be a problem is.
the key is, you won’t know until you do it unfortunately.
First few talks - No I will not be open at all. Its more of a intro. There is no trust, there is no knowledge about the person. Why should I?
As the progress is made, and we reach to a point of having some sort of trust, yes surely its time to open up. By this time I will know if the other person is capable of understanding and digesting everything with ease. If the answer is Yes he can, you tell him or her everything else as well so there is no skeleton left in the closet. And if the answer is No he is not capable at all then just close the case. Shut him down and move on. He doesnt deserve you. Unless he becomes only a friend
Like I always says …Peoples Beezwax only melts after you puts a Flame To it! 