without having a woman around them (moms, wives, sisters, a maid)?
I am clearly beginning to notice the pattern in men and their inability to find things. I have seen men unable to find a hathi sitting infront of them(exaggeration) but its somewhat true.
So my question to guppies here is how have you managed to survive on your own when you had to live alone=O? Were you able to find food in the fridge? HUHUHUH was it difficult?
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I think they survive better without us because someone like me would move his keys and wallet and put them where I think they should be and he'd never be able to find them. If I wasn't there, he'd find it from exactly where he left it at.
However, in my case, my husband can't even find things he put that no-one touches. True story.
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Rubbish, we have lived on our own (dad and 2 sons) for nearly six years and we're still alive and know where everything is.
Oh, and get this for a party trick, we feed, clothe and clean ourselves too!
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not a problem 
How have men survived
I agree they definitely can't survive without us :)
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without having a woman around them (moms, wives, sisters, a maid)?
Clearly we can live a very long and happy life without finding things. We can always go and buy a new one. Its the constant nagging that kills us.
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I misplaced my school bag at least twice a a day in college so I’d be terrible at the remembering where ***he ***put things.
Lived mostly on my own from 14-16 and completely on my own from 16-26 and survived in style.
Looking at many threads here, seems like I was better able to cook, manage my place and chores along with school, sports and work than many 20 something married women.who have fewer commitments. :)
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because ur cooking for one person , and they are for the entire family. Plus when ur alone , u tend to eat the same thing alot & not be fussy but when u have someone making food for u ....
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Only part that's a drag is the clean-up. Otherwise it's pretty easy.
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if men can make mess then y cant they clean .. ^ ..
Majesty, not quite true. I have observed many stay at home newly married ladies in mid twenties who have no school, no work and are overwhelmed, it's the spoilt princess syndrome really.
if I could have run my entire life at 17 in a brand new country with no family around and all new friends etc, And before easy access to a support network via email, skype, facebook etc..I am amused to see how ladies in mid twenties moving across town can't hold their lives together.
The guy bashing is fine, but I don't see many threads by guys who are complaining of managing being newly weds with a career or other obligations and responsibilities or even interests.
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^^ I agree.
The new lot of girls arriving from back home, freshly married to guys here on H1 visas... umm, sorry to say but dunno what they were expecting. They should bring a maid with them to iron their clothes.
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My stuff is organized in piles of crap. I know which crap belongs in which pile. Once you start to move it around (“cleaning” up), then I’m disoriented. In my defense, a social science prof once told me that there are people who put stuff away, and people who organize it into piles. Apparently I’m the latter.
that’s true. People in Pakistan need to put their kids to work.
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Men are way way way more organized than women , when it comes to living all by yourself .
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without having a woman around them (moms, wives, sisters, a maid)?
I am clearly beginning to notice the pattern in men and their inability to find things. I have seen men unable to find a hathi sitting infront of them(exaggeration) but its somewhat true.
Are you calling the women in their lives haathis? :D I know women are overweight and everything but calling them haathis? A man would have been fried for that.
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Welll i lived by myself for long time yo. And i tell ya..it has been best experience every. I have learnt to do cooking, laundry and all by myself. I am not saying..i am very organized person..but i generally took a good care of my apartment. So ya i have survived pretty good!.
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^^ I agree.
The new lot of girls arriving from back home, freshly married to guys here on H1 visas... umm, sorry to say but dunno what they were expecting. They should bring a maid with them to iron their clothes.
Stop generalizing will you? its not just the NEW LOT OF GIRLS FROM BACK HOME who complains here.
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How men are coping up with their marriages - Times Of India
We’ve heard the woman’s side; but how do men wrestle with the challenges of a modern marriage?
If you ask Minty Tejpal, the author of The Last Love Letter, about the secret of a happy marriage, he’d say it remains a secret. In his new book, Tejpal, who is twice divorced and based in Mumbai with two children who live in Delhi, narrates a story “liberally borrowed” from his own, questioning the institution of marriage from a man’s perspective and asking the reader to re-assess the concept of love and marriage.
Tejpal says a man’s biggest challenge in the 21st century marriage is to fit into the painfully long checklist of expectations. “There are just too many of them,” he says. “The husband is expected to be a multifaceted artiste who must take on several roles — provider, protector, driver, events planner, techie, troubleshooter, sexual partner, kids’ teacher, holiday planner and art, music or film enthusiast, etc. The conflict over such expectations makes situations go awry.” opportunities for both sexes to meet new, interesting people are fuelling sexual infidelity among married couples. Women can afford to tell their partner ‘Get lost’ and walk out. Even my mother jokes that if she had so many options back in the day, she would have walked out on my father after a bitter fight." Bhonsle agrees, and adds that this overwhelming exposure is making us grow very fast, “But with time, couples, at an individual level, grow differently. One day, they realise that they have also grown apart.”
He cites an unfortunate instance of a couple he consulted. “High school sweethearts, they married after completing their MBA together,” he shares. “She then went to UK for a year — the first time they lived apart. When she returned, she headed straight to the family court seeking divorce. She told me she had nothing against him, but had ‘grown out of him’. She didn’t know there was this huge world beyond him and them. This may be an extreme example but is symptomatic of the times we live in.”
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Compatibility test**
Marriage counsellor and sexologist Dr Rajan Bhonsle says men often fail to manage the situation and end up blaming the wife or the institution. “The most common phrase I have heard from troubled, married couples is: I wish I had known this before,” says Bhonsle.
“The biggest problem ailing us is that a couple doesn’t verify the most elementary criteria — compatibility. In Marathi, there’s a saying about how we check all sides of even an earthen pot before buying it, and yet we don’t fully ‘check’ the partner with whom we will share our entire lives.”
Tejpal, who has been a media professional, says, "As individuals, we are constantly connected to the world through Internet, social networking and unprecedented exposure through TV. Everybody aspires for a better life, a new house, a new car and bigger, better versions of things they own.
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Pandora’s box of options**
The modern, urban lifestyle’s fallout of joint families breaking into nuclear families with no immediate support system has caused marriages most damage, feels Tejpal. “I had never imagined in my teens that I would get divorced, let alone twice over. I’m the first child in my large family to get divorced. Earlier, couples stuck together despite upheavals. But today, your nana-nani, dada-dadi aren’t around you to lighten up the pressure cooker scenario,” he says. “When a couple scraps, there’s nobody to instantly tend to those wounds which only fester over time. Even well-meaning friends end up pitting couples against each other because nobody wants to take a step back.”
To highlight the grim state of modern marriages, Bhonsle shares an amusing statistic, as collected from family courts across India — in 1981, about 3 to 5 per cent marriages failed. In 2008, it was about 13-15 per cent. Bhonsle says that the modern man must think differently. “Today’s woman sees how the world moves and doesn’t want to waste time on a marriage or a relationship that’s inhibiting her from living her life,” he says. “The current generation of husbands has grown up seeing their mothers, who are very different from the modern woman. You can’t expect your wife to be like your mother anymore because she is brought up and has grown up differently.”
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Label reversal **
Marriage counsellor and psychotherapist Dr Sanjoy Mukerji says that in conservative families, the man still gets sandwiched between his wife and his mother. “Saas-bahu serials may be exaggerated but aren’t off the mark. Of the marital discords I deal with, 75 per cent is saasbahu acrimony and the husband battling labels such as mommy’s boy or henpecked husband.”