One of my Dad’s close colleagues is desi and divorced with two kids in their early teens, she really struggles but then again one of the other doctors he works with is european, also with two kids and she manages just fine. I think it depends on a lot of things, financial commitments - do the kids go to private schools, does the ex help out much (financially and in practical ways), does she have a mortgage to pay, does the woman’s family support her/help out etc. I know desi women get a lot less support (even if the breakup was not their fault at all) so prob why they have a much harder time of it. Also, they are much less likely to get remarried, sometimes they choose not to (I often hear that they worry that kids will get mistreated), usually there aren’t exactly desi men lining up to marry a non-virgin unless the woman is stunningly beautiful or from a very well off or well known family. It does happen tho, one of my cousins remarried after a v.short (less than 3yr) marriage, she was incredibly fair tho, skin like porcelain and we all know the desi obsession with fair women and her dad was a company director. If she had been ‘ordinary’ I doubt she would have gotten many good proposals. I’ve also noticed that like someone already mentioned some families will steer clear of a divorced woman and not invite them to parties and so on. As if every divorced woman out there must be a homewrecker.
This obsession we have with a woman’s virginity and ‘reputation’ really riles me, it’s complete double standards. So many men love bedhopping, drinking etc and their family turns a blind eye then gets them a nice ‘pure’ little virgin (some two faced idiots actually have the nerve to insist on it). Even if a man beats his wife and gets divorced it’s often no problem finding another wife yet the poor woman he’s mistreated gets ‘tainted’ for life and comments like ‘well maybe she did something to provoke him’ or ‘maybe she had an affair’ 