Your lad has a tryst with his school teacher; the lad is 18…
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and you are asking if I would forgive my son?
or if I would forgive the teacher?
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theres MUCH MUCH worse things a kid can do......if you wanna ask about forgiving then mention other worse things too.
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Teacher.
Would you let her continue teaching in the lad's old school considering she was in the position of 'authority and trust'? We might have a repeat offender in our midst.
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Would you let her continue teaching in the lad's old school considering she was in the position of 'authority and trust'? We might have a repeat offender in our midst.
the student was 18...its not like hes a little kid. if the kid was 12/13 then its a different story
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teacher not forgiven
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She was in a position of 'authority and trust' and she violated that trust. Also, the boy's parents trusted her too; she breached that trust as well. In your mind, she may not be technically guilty, she has ethically transgrassed and must be removed from her position.
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Is there a clause in the teacher's contract that suggests that a teacher is not allowed to get involved with a student?
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Are you asking whether, as a parent we'd toss the kid out on his butt and disown him for such a thing? Never. There is nothing my children could ever do that would make me do that....
If they ever (God forbid) got into any sort of trouble well thats a reflection on the family, the family should be their support and their way to healing. No matter WHAT the offense.
Theres a huge responsibility to parenting....and even the most perfect of parents do not always get the perfect adult that they've tried to raise the child to be....parents are still responsible though - for giving the child the genes that caused whatever regress happens. Throwing them out and denying them your parenthood is immature, ignorant and just plain mean-spirited.
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Well, according to the statement, the boy was 18 & out of school when she started dating him? We may think it wrong but she didn´t say how old she was, some teachers are as young as 23 or even 21.
There can be many factors, but since he was out of school, 18 years old lad I dont think legally it was wrong but morally, I wont comment though it feels wrong or not right but again I dont think either teacher or the lad be held accountable for anything.
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teacher would need to suffer through some sort of punishment.......monetary....career-wise.....and would have to go through counselling before I would accept her back into a teaching position.
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At age 18, my focus would be my son. Forget the teacher, although I'd report her etc etc....she actually did not break any official laws since the kid is 18 but she did break a moral code that should be followed and so reporting her should take care of that, the school would likely end up firing her. Thats just an aside because what I'd want to do is help my son, guide him and help him find his way.
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Err okay i read it and i dont see the problem? they started a relationshp AFTER he graduated, as far as what's written, she kept her feelings to herself while he was still a student. So what moral code is she breaking? why should she suffer for anything? He's 18, its possible to develop feelings and no it doesnt mean if she liked him, she could "prey" on other students.. the only way i'd find it wrong is if they started somethign WHILE he was still a student or if he was underage.
And before you ask, if it was gender reversed, I'd still say the same thing, if they began everything AFTER she graduated, i don't see why teacher should suffer for anything.
Nowww.. speaking from a religious/desi point of view, i'd be pissed if they had an affair with ANYONE period. doesn't matter who.
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glad someone is able 2 distinguish frm western/islamic view points!
It’d be wrong for both of them, but I’d look towards my offspring first-since he would be my responsibility!..For those blaming the teacher and victimising her eg. cutting her wage, suspending her etc. That’s very much biased and a one-sided punishment! Takes two to tango!
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teacher is the builder of minds and characters . if he/ she cannot maintain his / her high esteem and values how will she/he serve the purpose . if he becomes emotionally weak for a student then he/she shouldn’t be forgiven
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Depends on who you ask that question to, regardless of whom it were with to a Paki or an English person 300 yrs ago to whom chastity, purity, wedlock and all that matter because of religion or values or whatever it would be hard to forgive their children but an English parent nowadays wont even consider it wrong, in fact even Paki parents have become forgiving in recent years even to girls let alone boys, when they have premartial relationships they simply take them back home to marry them off to a cousin who'll accept them because they come with a British passport.
Teacher or no teacher, age difference or not if they rock each others boat who are we to judge? Milf and young Gilf can be quite attractive because of their charm, charisma, grace and inteligence, they're a breath of fresh air after these young girls nowadays who are clones of each other and nothing but anorexic stick insects with high squeaky nasal voices and brains the size of a pea.
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i reckon this all especially the bold type there’s no denial to it .. 
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I actually had a highschool teacher who married one of his students after she graduated. He was thirty five, she was eighteen. People may have talked but he did not get in trouble for it because they did not do anything until after she graduated (according to what he told us).
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**Have mercy upon people then Allah Tallah have mercy on you. **Whoever commited sins on me, I forgave and forgot them.
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Sadly we had a situation similar to this in our highschool i dont remmeber exactly what happen
but my teacher was on NY1 News few years back 
He was fired.
- After breaking trust of the parent and other people… that teacher should resign before she gets fired.
She should have controled herself instead of acting on her sexual desires… disgusting