Without boring everyone to death, I was wondering if anyone would actually avoid going to events/parties/gatherings if they knew someone was attending who they really do not get on with? Or would you go and try to avoid them, even though they are the type of person that will go out of their way to get under your skin?
I basically do not get along with extended family, a lot has happend and to be frank they are quite bitter and as I’m currently pregnant I just want to get on with life without coming across these people. Unfortunately I’ve just seen a list of people attending an event I was meant to be going to as well as a birthday do for someone I know, again the guest list features the people I’m trying to avoid. I thought about going, and then thought if they cause a scene it will look a) silly b) it’s stress I don’t want.
Re: How far would you go just have a peace and quiet?
I probably wouldn't go .... would instead get a good book to read or go shopping or do something I like doing. I know how pregnancy hormones get you all emotional (I've been crying over silly little things), don't go if you don't feel like seeing their thobraas.
Without boring everyone to death, I was wondering if anyone would actually avoid going to events/parties/gatherings if they knew someone was attending who they really do not get on with? Or would you go and try to avoid them, even though they are the type of person that will go out of their way to get under your skin?
I basically do not get along with extended family, a lot has happend and to be frank they are quite bitter and as I'm currently pregnant I just want to get on with life without coming across these people. Unfortunately I've just seen a list of people attending an event I was meant to be going to as well as a birthday do for someone I know, again the guest list features the people I'm trying to avoid. I thought about going, and then thought if they cause a scene it will look a) silly b) it's stress I don't want.
Anyone chip in with what you would do.
I can understand you not wanting to go because you dont want the unnecessary stress but sooner or later you will have to deal with them. So why not train yourself now? You dont stop going places because someone is there. Its like me saying I wont go to Spain because someone I dont like lives there. I would avoid those particular people, yes. But I would definitely not stop myself from going! There are other aspects of the party to enjoy Im sure so keep your focus on them.
Stay close to your husband, dont be alone with them, smile politely from a distance and keep moving.
Re: How far would you go just have a peace and quiet?
Don't let them intimidate you, though you don't seem be much intimidated. :P But still, if I were you, I would make up an excuse like your pregnancy for example. But if you HAVE TO GO, to your dismay, then I guess you have to just say hello and then walk away to eat biryani at the dinner table. Ignore anything they say, or completely bite them back with crude words that will shut them up.
So live your life well. Go out and enjoy yourself. And if you find yourself in close proximity with people you don't get on with...well, act as if you're not bothered by anything. Greet them happily and politely, and and then move on to mingle with friends and acquaintances. Enjoy the gathering. Enjoy the food. Enjoy the conversations. And as a side benefit, any people who are going out of their way to ignore you or be rude to you will see that their efforts are all in vain because it's not ruffling your feathers one bit. This usually drives them nuts. So it's a bonus for you ;)