Hey all.. Soooo, I apologize in advance for the title.. didnt really know what to type lol..
Anyways.. I wanna know how far you and your gf/bf went in terms of talking about certain topics, feelings, likes, dislikes, future wishes and plans before getting married.. And if your not married yet I still wanna know if anyone is willing to share.. Just curious..
Also how physical are/were you? Hold hands? Hugs? Peck on the cheek? French kiss haha.. Or more? How much is appropriate in your oppinion?
IMO.. personally.. I think holding hands, hugs, and maybe an innocent kiss or two is as far as i can go.. Never really been in a relationship before because thats just something i chose to wait with, but yea.. Anything more physical than mentioned above is something i definitely wanna wait with..
Before getting engaged.....we discussed everything. Likes/dislikes/future plans....thoughts on children, our beliefs on raising children, career, retirement plans, $ spending habits, thoughts on moving out of state/country, thoughts on our parents living with us if they ever need to, thought on household chores......EVERYTHING we could think of....we discussed. Why would I want to marry someone who doesn't have similar beliefs and future plans as I do?
As for the rest of your question....does it matter what other people did physically with their boyfriends/fiance etc? Shouldn't those details remain private between the two people? If/when you do get into a relationship....you need to do what you feel comfortable doing.
This is one of those things in life where other people's "opinions" doesn't matter. How far other couples choose to go physically should have no influence on what YOU choose to do.
I strongly reject bf/gf relationship, if your baat is pakki and you and your significant had spoken one or two time before rishta pakka, then you dont need to discuss feeling, likes, and future planning.
obviously any physical relation even if it was minor like hugging, kissing (including french kiss) isnt appropriate, you will lost your innocence before marriage, and your face will no longer show NOOR (a bless light on face from Allah), and most important is that all these kind of relationship are neither rewarded by Allah without Nikkah.
Physical terms are totally private and should be kept that way.
Me and my fiance discussed pretty much everything within the first 2 years or so. We had very open communication and plus, being the impatient person that I am, I wanted to discuss everything and be on the same page. I can safely say there isn't a thing we both dont feel comfortable discussing and I am super-thankful for that b/c it occurs to me that most married people dont even have that uninhibitedness that we two have. I think it should be like that w/ every healthy relationship. Being close in age and wavelength makes it all that much easier.
Just curious..
