Re: How fair should one expect in laws to be between daughter in laws?
No…not when it comes to money. The only thing your in-laws owe you is respect and since you described them as “lovely decent people”…it sounds like they’re polite/respectful towards you. They can spend their money however they choose…even if that means spending it on another bahu. In my opinion, you have no right to feel entitled to shopping trips or any other financial help from them.