How fair is it when..

[diwana]

@sa-Nafooz

your friend at one time due to some fairly good reasons (unnecessarily) distances from/avoids you and nearly deserts you…and then after some time tells you that now he/she regrets and is guilty for what he/she did to you ‘only’ because he/she has now been avoided and deserted by the person he/she was in love with for the same reasons:vivo:

what does this say about the friendship and how fair is it on the other friend?
i mean if this friend wasnt avoided/deserted by his/her lover then there would be no regrets and no guilt, and the friendship would have been at the same distant level…
the friend who got distant would never have realised what his/her mistake was and would have always thought tht what they did was right?

Got it.

You did make sense in asking the question except where you wrote bold sentence where you still make sense if it is dug a little deeper.

OK.

The remorse that person is showing may or may not be genuine.

Only time after can tell.

Just be cautious