Re: how essential is flirting?
Mine's pre determined so can't lend ya my two cents.
But outa curiosity flirting is OK/good if u know the technique. If not, u ruin for everyone involved. And in ur case, which is strictly a future prospect, i really don't think flirting has anything to do with that... finding a future husband or something as such....
What u need to be doing is having ur options wide open, and let the right one knock the door, rather than you go to them and mess around.
And after reading ur last post, i really think u can wait for the RIGHT guy... for a little bit more. But again, flirting in ur case is highly hazardous. It just wont suit you.