How effective is being nice?

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BarbieCue July 1, 2011, 6:41pm 1

So we all hear stuff like pyar mohabbat se issues solve karne chahiye, anger only creates further problems. But how effective is niceness? Wouldn’t the person remember your words way better and longer if you were insensitive but straight-forward instead of beating around the bush trying to be nice and considerate?

(This isn’t my opinion, just a question for the sake of discussion.)

NomiCA July 1, 2011, 6:43pm 2

Re: How effective is being nice?

There is no standard mix of 'niceness' and 'straight insensitivity...........' every situation warrants different approaches.......

BarbieCue July 1, 2011, 6:46pm 3

Re: How effective is being nice?

Can you please elaborate using examples?

BarbieCue July 1, 2011, 6:59pm 4

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^ That obviously wasn't effective!

MoniCA :ASA:

jhooom July 1, 2011, 7:32pm 5

Re: How effective is being nice?

I hate it when people mix urdu and english. speak one language, or the other. dont rape both of them.

NomiCA July 1, 2011, 7:35pm 6

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now i wonder..what approach should i take??

BarbieCue July 1, 2011, 7:35pm 7

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Jhoom, that wasn’t effective, just so you know.

jhooom July 1, 2011, 7:49pm 8

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I was justing hoping that you will give it a thought.

BarbieCue July 1, 2011, 7:51pm 9

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And you’re telling me to not rape english?

jhooom July 1, 2011, 7:53pm 10

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your use of smileys tells more than your sentences.

rape english all you want. but please dont do it to Urdu.

Southie July 2, 2011, 12:35am 11

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Nice approach - very nice input from the esteemed partcipants
Insensitive approach - WTH are you guys saying?