how does one overcome serious self esteem issues?
honestly beginning to realize people are confident because they have something to be confident about.
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look at your achievements and not at your failures. try to learn from what you have done wrong in your life. be patient and proactive.
be positive in your thoughts!!!
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how does one overcome serious self esteem issues?
honestly beginning to realize people are confident because they have something to be confident about.
They may have something to be confident about such as their beauty (which is out of their control and not something you work hard for), their intelligence, or their various achievements. But like everyone else, all those confident people also have sooooo mistakes and sins and regrets...that exceed their accomplishments. I wouldn't describe myself as confident; it's something I need to work on. But I have seen the most prettiest, most highly educated, most academically gifted, talented, popular people say and do idiotic things. They are flawed people like everyone else.
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I wasn't always as confident as I am now. Growing up everyone somehow saw my potential except me. They kept telling me to believe in myself and I used to wonder 'what do they mean? How does one do that?' Compliments were not received well by me and I always doubted everything I did. I did not know what I was capable of but once I realized my own potential, I naturally became confident. So basically, you need to believe in yourself.
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Self doubt is always going to be present. In fact, a person needs to have some self doubt to avoid overconfidence and complacency.
Those with extremely high self esteem may actually be clueless - they don't know what they don't know. And they don't know that they don't know.
Maybe your self doubt is a healthy attribute.
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I wasn't always as confident as I am now. Growing up everyone somehow saw my potential except me. They kept telling me to believe in myself and I used to wonder 'what do they mean? How does one do that?' Compliments were not received well by me and I always doubted everything I did. I did not know what I was capable of but once I realized my own potential, I naturally became confident. So basically, you need to believe in yourself.
now I know where did honey boo boos mom got her confidence from
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I wasn't always as confident as I am now. Growing up everyone somehow saw my potential except me. They kept telling me to believe in myself and I used to wonder 'what do they mean? How does one do that?' Compliments were not received well by me and I always doubted everything I did. I did not know what I was capable** of **but once I realized my own potential, I naturally became confident. So basically, you need to believe in yourself.
Damn Theorist, the bold part is me right now and I can only hope that one day I can say the rest about myself as well.
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She is goals, man! :jano:
@Aqua 70 - It takes time to get there. Having a strong support system helps tremendously. I used to take criticism very personally. Then I realized I had to prove myself to others so Instead of feeling like I failed, I set out to prove them wrong. I am quite competitive by nature, which can be a good or bad thing. Balance is key.
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Balance is key.
Not really. Some swear by Adidas.
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I think the very first step to gaining self-esteem and confidence is to stop comparing yourself to others.
Find those characteristics in yourself that you are proud of.....what do you do better today than you did a year ago?.....turn your focus there.
If you have trouble identifying those things about yourself that you truly love, set goals and work towards achieving them.
Set some easy ones with short deadlines......once you accomplish them reward yourself....give yourself recognition.
Set some longer-term goals, ones that you will achieve in months rather than days and make efforts to achieve them.
It will not be easy but this way you will have measurable results to form opinions about yourself on and that will help you justify self-appreciation.
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Guess when it comes to achivments , you can work hard and you may succeed . But what about things such as looks,things that you actually can't Change
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Guess when it comes to achivments , you can work hard and you may succeed . But what about things such as looks,things that you actually can't Change
Some aspects of one's looks can be changed or enhanced with some effort...such as losing weight, getting a hair cut, dress-sense, skin treatments, etc. With other aspects such as the shape of your features and you're limited. Plastic surgery is an option for some and for others it isn't for various reasons. I've seen attractive people lose their looks as they age. So if their looks was the only quality they relied on, what happens when it fades with time? And as cliche as it may sound, I've eventually become put off by attractive people with crap attitudes. You're basing too much of your self-worth on ur looks.
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not comparing yourself to others is very important! often times, this is what causes many self-esteem problems. Your parents or others and even yourself may compare but just try and block it out.
do you have self-esteem or low confidence issues because of negative events in your life such as toxic family, friends, co-workers etc? If its something in your control then try and limit contact with such people. Or try and change such situations as best as you can.
and honestly not as many people as you think are confident. Most people are very good at faking it when they need to. Everyone has some sort of self-esteem or insecurity issue, yes even the most over-confident of people.
Do you have low self-esteem because you care what people think? if so then dont! I used to be like this until one day something just snapped and I was like **** it. Who even are you? Why should I be so affected by you.
Start with eating healthy and exercising. Taking care of you means you respect and appreciate yourself. The best way to take care of self esteem issues is to be gentle and patient with yourself. Don't compare yourself with others, we have all come from different paths of life.
If you make a mistake, don't dwell on it or put yourself down. Just analyze it and take the lessons learned.
Don't focus on the negative things people say. Often times it is just their fears and anxiety speaking.
Again, just be KIND to yourself.